Beauty and love.....
Posted 11/11/2006 1:32:58 PM
There are some things that I am perplexed about. Love, emotions and beauty. Ya ya your saying that this is another girly thing. But that is not where I am going at all with this, just so you know, so keep reading LOL.

I think at times we all wonder about these things and I feel that each one of us really do want to know the true answer to it. Take the emotion of happiness for instance, what it is, and can you come up with a definition for it? In my opinion each definition that every person would come up with would be different, no matter how close, some how it would still be different amongst each one of us. I had the chance to write a paper on happiness once and I feel that really there is not such thing as true pure happiness, because there are too many things that can go wrong at any time in someone's life. But one can learn to accept problems as challenges and be content with their situations. And then there is the whole range of emotions that we can feel.

I often wonder if it is just biological in its true sense. Meaning, is it just all just a chemical reaction of some sort that we either like or dislike. I have seen some studies on this and it does make you wonder about all of this stuff. Love for instance there is one study that shows that "love" or the "feelings" of love are just in a sense a chemical reaction that makes us feel good and in turn makes us crave it. To me it just seems kind of blaaaa to think that is all it is, and that is why I always say that I am not sure I believe that "love" exists. And what I mean is, I am not sure that it exists in the way that books and movies ect.. Make it out to be. Or maybe it is just I have had a bad experience or two with this emotion, which in turn has given me a negative out look on it. How can you love someone, but they do not love you? To me an emotion like love can not be one sided.. But in my experience this has happened.. Totally crazy about someone.. but to them you are really not all that important. But still I crave it, go figure huh LOL. This just makes me wonder.....

Beauty, what is it? It is physical? Is it mental.. or is it a combination of the two? To me beauty has been over rated, at least in the sense that we have been conditioned to look at it. We are told each day by media and ect.. that we should look a certain way, or we are "not beautiful" Ok I guess I agree with part of this. But I think there is a deeper understanding to it. I believe this first way of looking at beauty is purely physical, and we are all guilty of it. "Look at that guy/girl! He/she is so fucking hot!" Ok we have all done that, but for me there is more to it than just that. Yes we may find this person beautiful, sexy, and hot, what ever you want to call it. But to me that does not say that person is really "beautiful". I think under closer examination there is more than just the physical involved, and what I mean is the emotions are involved as well. This is what separates us from other animals, I would hope we are deeper than that.
I do not believe that you can "love" someone just purely because they are "beautiful". But I do believe that you can have sex with someone because of that. But to me that just seems so meaning less.... ya I'm sure it is OK sometimes. But as I said earlier we all crave love right. Then in a sense we are looking for more than just beauty. So if beauty is suppose to be the roots to it, then we would be "in love" with every "beautiful" person that we ran into. DAMN to me that would make life soooo confusing. Imagine that, being in love with a ton of people all at the same time and for ever LOL. Because love lasts, infatuation does not. So then it is infatuation right? We see that beautiful person, feel the infatuation, get all confused and star struck only to find out about 18 months to two years later that what we thought was "love" was not. Just to give you something to think about. Maybe this is why our divorce rate is so high; we are conditioned to think that we should act purely on the physical appearance. Instead of recognizing compatibility as well, you may think I am pretty.. but are we compatible? Well what happens when that person ages, gains wieght, burps at dinner (LOL these things tend to get on our nerves), and then we age, . well then we move on our separate paths. To me this is a very shallow way of looking at life. So to try to get back on what I was talking about LOL. Beauty is more than just physical, there has to be other "emotional" connections involved. At least if we want to experience love.... To me beauty and love are all about the imperfections! That is what makes someone beautiful, and you know you love them when you love there physical beauty, but as well as all thier flaws.

None of us are perfect, so then why do so many of us look for perfection. OK I think I really went out there on this one LOL.. I hope I made some sense.. but honestly I still really do not know what any of these things are. And really I do not want to know completely, because if I did know, then life would be boring LOL.. Anyway hope I did not make you all think I was crazy or something. Hope you all are well ...love ya lol

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