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is it me? or is it her?
Posted 6/11/2008 1:26:57 PM
I have a friend that seems to be brilliant at pushing the limits of my patience. she's absolutely great at it. it must've taken a lot of practice. just yesterday she came over to "hang out" as she calls it. the first thing she does as she enters my room is to raid my money jar, taking some money out of it and running away. at this point i assume i'm supposed to give chase and possibly push her down the stairs for upsetting me. instead of doing that, which would've prolly been more exciting, I proceeded to fight with her to get my money back (because if I dont, she will gladly leave my house with my money still in her pocket). I remember hearing when i was younger that if a girl acted like that it means that she likes you, but i'm 22 and she's 21...I think we should be long past those days.

now that's story 1. here's story 2:
my brother got a new phone with a bluetooth piece to go with it. she finds out about the bluetooth and started using it to talk to her friend. my brother didn't care since he was busy doing something. then when he's ready to go to sleep he asks her for the bluetooth piece, and she naturally declined. eventually he turned off his phone so the bluetooth disconnected. she got mad and threw his bluetooth piece down the stairs (where she would've been had i been crazy enough).

I've been thinking for a while that her behavior reminds me a lot of my 5 year old niece.

the only reason i'm still friends with this girl is because I think that if i could figure out a way to get her under control that i'd be a better person for it, because I dont think her boyfriend had these problems with her. but everytime she acts up like this the only thing i want to do is hit her. i'm thinking the best solution for me right now is to just stop being friends with her.

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any other blog sites?
Posted 6/7/2008 10:36:56 PM
is there any other blog sites that are popular?

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I really hate being the "smart guy"
Posted 6/5/2008 3:47:53 PM
It's a pattern that's all too familiar. I wouldn't say it happens every semester but it happens enough to annoy me. As soon as the students in my class find out that I'm one of those guys that get good grades on every test (we're talking about the slackers here), that's when it starts. People keep asking me for help on this and that. I don't mind doing it sometimes, but PLEASE don't make habit of it. I notice it'll usually get to the point where they don't even try anymore. I guess they're thinking...do it myself? that's just crazy talk. Come here shel...

I mean I need help too sometimes but the majority of the time I do everything myself when possible. I don't like to depend on someone else to do for me what I can do myself. I even have a friend in my school that I met in high school that has this habit of asking me for help waaaaaay too often. The guy even came to me the other day asking me what classes i'm going to take next quarter...like I don't know where this is going. He wants me in a class he's taking so I can be his crutch. **** that. He's gonna have to struggle like everyone else!

But the one thing that always gets me is the finals. Who is everyone looking to whisper answers to them during the test? *sigh*. I'm actually scarred for life when it comes to cheating on tests. In high school, I tried to cheat on my history test and the teacher caught me. He took my paper from off my desk and brought it to the front of the class to announce that I was cheating and would be getting a zero for that test. That rat bastard told everyone lol. It was so embarrassing. I never cheated on a test since...I guess I should thank him (though he's still a bastard).

While taking my finals today two ppl asked me for answers. One wanted me to write it down and the other wanted me to whisper it to him. Luckily I had my mp3 player with me so I just put some music on so I could pretend I didn't hear them calling me :P. Handed my test in and left. They may be mad at me, but whatever. Maybe you'll do better when you have to take that same test again next semester. Ha!

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FINALLY some relief
Posted 6/4/2008 5:36:44 PM
So in my search for any possible solution to this Hyperhidrosis problem I have, I came across a Botox reimbursement group. They pretty much acted as an intermediary between my dermatologist and my health insurance company to find out if I would be covered for getting Botox shots to treat this condition of mine.

Called them up today about it and was told that I should be covered 100% for the procedure and all I'll have to pay is a $25 co-pay. I'm so excited to finally get this done. This will help eliminate the thing that causes the majority of my stress, and less stress means less babies gettin punched in the face.

side note: i do not punch babies in the face...thought i should clear that up.

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Can't wait till I have a son
Posted 5/30/2008 11:32:46 AM
They say with time comes experience. I'm only 22 years old but I feel like I've learned a lot from this world and the ppl in it. You could maybe say that I'm wise beyond my years even. I like to sit back and observe things that happen to myself and others, and learn from them.

Being a father, part of your role is to take care of your child and provide for him the best you can. Also, you're supposed to raise your child to be better than you. He's supposed to be stronger, faster, smarter, better, kinda like that commercial lol. I'm just really looking forward to imparting my knowledge/experience to my son at an early age. There are things that I know now that I wish I would've learned a lot sooner in life. These are the kinds of things I plan on letting my son in on early.

I really can't wait to see the kind of man my son will grow into. If he's not better than I am, then I've failed.

Now...all I need is to find a girl to knock up and we'll be on our way :-P

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so about a "friend" of mine...
Posted 5/28/2008 10:11:42 PM
this "friend" I speak of isn't really what I would call a friend. She just happens to be someone I know through my brother. I call her a "friend" because she's not someone I would normally let into my life as a friend at all. I actually make a conscious effort to make sure she stays in between being a friend, and being a stranger. She's kinda at that middle ground, kinda like when you see someone you used to be really cool with back in the day but lost contact...yeah.

The reason why I don't want to become REAL friends with her is because of how shady she is. Just today she pulled one of her patented moves on my brother. They went to Taco Bell to get something to eat and while at the register she PRETENDED like she left her wallet at home by accident. Being a FRIEND, my brother bought a meal for her under the promise that she would pay him back the money when they got back to her house. From what I've said about her so far, I'm sure you've guessed that she didn't pay him back. She had no money to begin with.

When my brother told me about it, it pissed me off even though i wasn't even involved in it. actually she pulled this lil move on me once upon a time. She really should get a copyright on it cuz it's just brilliant. Same situation, at subway she pulled this move on me. Since then though I've kept my distance from her as much as possible. I'd love to shoot her a few times with a bb gun, with each pellet being 5 cents towards what she owes me but alas...i could possibly be arrested lol.

she actually managed to get this guy she was seeing to pay her phone bill, and then she very cleverly came up with an excuse to stop seeing him. Now, I don't blame her for this. I think the guy is crazy for doing that for someone he hasn't known for very long. He just got played for a sucka...you live and you learn right?

You should already have an idea of the kind of character this female dog (see what I did there?) has.

Just the other day I let her borrow a blank cd I had since I dont really use those things much anymore. According to her she would buy like a 3-pack of blank cds and give me the cd back. It's a week later and no CD...are you surprised?

at this point the only reason I even speak to this girl is because im cool with her brother and mother, but that's about it.

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I hate most big businesses!
Posted 5/23/2008 12:02:16 PM
All of these multi-million dollar businesses and corporations out there have so much money and yet they all suck. They always try to avoid being liable for their own services or mistakes. Like right now for instance, my insurance company is making me jump through loops just to get some coverage for Botox shots (not for cosmetic use). I'm paying all this money each month for health insurance but when I actually need their help it seems as if they don't even wanna help me out.

my brother is trying to pay off his car payments as quickly as possible instead of paying the minimum monthly payments, and in order for him to do that he has to go a different route than usual to make those payments. he told me that they try to make it more difficult than usual to pay off your car payments because they make money off the interest you're charged every month. So it's not in there best interest to have you pay it off quickly. Same thing for credit card companies.

and my most hated company at the moment, UPS, doesn't care about your packages at all. A friend of mine that used to work for UPS told me how they'd throw football sized packages around like footballs in the facility. They'd toss and drop stuff all the time. Now I dont know if this is a universal thing, or it just happens at the facility near my home, but i've had sooo many problems with UPS. They've lost two of my mp3 players in transit, destroyed my HDTV making me have to get it replaced, and delivered several packages a day after it was to be delivered. I've never had one problem with FedEx up until this point.

There's a bunch of other companies that piss me off. Microsoft for example. They know that their 360s are faulty, but when you send it in to be repaired, they usually just give you more of the same. You get a replacement console that is just as flawed as the one you sent in instead of giving you one of the newer models. i'll stop my rant here.

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Personal Life: If only they knew what I go through...
Posted 5/10/2008 9:56:45 AM
In elementary school I was a normal child. Had perfect health and all that good stuff. Then came middle school when things started to change.

In middle school is when this disorder that I live with today began to kick in. It's called palmar hyperhidrosis. The impact it had on my life was minimal at this point, mainly because it wasn't as serious as it is now. But high school is when it really made itself apparent.

The disorder is characterized by excessive sweating of the palms, beyond what is necessary to keep the body cool. In other words, my hands would sweat regardless of the weather, whether it's hot or cold. Because of this disorder, I was always uncomfortable with shaking hands or touching people. This eventually lead me to trying to avoid situations where a handshake could come into play. Since it's somewhat customary to greet someone by the hand, I had trouble meeting new people because I didn't want to have to touch anyone in anyway. I've lost many potential friends because of this fear of shaking hands. Some of the good friends that I have now are people that I've never greeted by hand. You know the saying "comfortable in your own skin"? Well I'm not comfortable in my own skin at all because that skin is always sweaty.

At first I was completely uncomfortable with even telling ppl that I even had this condition. This disorder has made my life very frustrating. Even things like holding my girlfriend's hand makes me uneasy. As a result, over the course of about 5 years since my hands started sweating as much as it does now, I've become a hermit. I don't like being around a bunch of new ppl I dont know because on a subconscious level I'm always thinking ahead to avoid handshakes. Very recently my school was holding a reward ceremony for those who have done well for themselves academically at my school and I turned down my invitation because I know once you get the reward that you have to shake the presenters hand.

If you think I may be blowin this out of proportion or something, you could go on the internet and look up palmar hyperhidrosis and read about how it affects peoples lives. what you read there will directly relate to everything i've written here.

As of now I dont have as many friends as I could've. I've met a lot of ppl in my school but never really maintained a relationship if I thought they were the kind of person that always
"shook hands" when greeting someone they know. My very best friend I have now I never shook his hand at all when I initially met him (by shaking hands I mean the kind that's done casually, not formerly, not for a job or anything).

Now, my family members think I'm just this shy guy because of how I behave. At church, I'm always the first one to get up and leave to the parking lot because at church you're told to greet your neighbor by the hand on your way out. It's not that i'm being anti-social or anything, I just don't like touching people because of my condition. So some of my family members make comments here and there about how i'm always at home either on the computer or playing videogames, and that I need go to out more often. It makes sense, but at the same time it's just not that easy for me. When my hands are sweating, that's all I think about, and it's hard for me to enjoy myself. It makes me very uncomfortable, and anxious, and that anxiety only makes my hands sweat even more, so it's like a "vicious cycle" to quote the title of Dane Cook's stand-up show. In elementary I was a very social person, and knew everyone in my grade level. In fact, I was the class clown in every class because I enjoyed making people laugh (and still do). Around people I'm comfortable with I'm very humorous, but it's just getting to that point where I'm comfortable with someone is where the problem lies.

I really could've enjoyed high school a lot more if it wasn't for this condition. I even skipped my senior prom cuz I didn't want to dance with anyone with my sweaty hands. I'm not a shy anti-social person at heart but this disorder is making me that kind of person.

I'd try to explain this all to my family who thinks i'm "shy" but I doubt they'll be able to make the connection between how having sweaty hands could make someone introverted without a lengthy explanation like this post (speaking of which, I've written a lot haven't I).

On the positive side, I should be getting some relief from this condition soon enough when I get this machine I was prescribed by my dermatologist. I really can't wait until I get it. Hopefully then I wont have to second guess every situation I get into trying to avoid touching ppl.

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I think I got in my own way
Posted 5/3/2008 8:42:39 PM
several months ago I met a girl online in a chat, and the convo was going well enough that I decided I'd keep in touch with her. Over the course of many 2 months, I kept talking to her and found myself more and more attracted to her. Though she was pretty, what I liked about her was her personality. She had a great sense of humor, as well as being humorous herself, and we just got a long great. I even talked to several members of her family, including her mother, and they all seemed great and could tell that they liked me (especially her mom but that's another story).

So eventually we starting getting more and more flirtatious with each other, and then considered dating each other. At the time I met her, she lived in the same state as me (about 50 minutes away from my house). When we started getting a lil more serious, she was getting ready to pack up and leave to go to school in Boston. She asked me if I would want to try the long distance dating thing and I sadly said no. My initial reason for saying no was because I thought long distance wasn't the "cool" thing to do. Though she was a great girl in my eyes I said no.

Because I said no she decided to stop talking to me as much as she used to because she wanted to distance herself from me if she couldn't have me. Later on I found out that my cousin who lives in Jamaica was dating a guy in Georgia. According to her they've been dating for a while and are thinking of getting married. This piqued my curiosity on long distance dating so I asked a few friends of mine and they said it's a bad idea because you could be cheated on without even knowing it. They basically thought that's it's impossible to be monogamous in a long distance relationship. At the same time though, there were people who i've asked in online places such as this and myspace about it and the most extreme case i've heard was that a woman in Europe was dating a man here in America and she was planning on moving to America so they could get married.

so after hearing all of this, I started to think that it prolly wouldn't be a bad idea after all to give it a try. I mean, I did really like this girl. I thought she was awesome, and definitely the kind of girl i'd date. Only problem is that we've kinda gotten out of contact with each other, and it'd be kinda weird to spring this on her after such a long time. so i don't know....

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How to lose a friend in X days...
Posted 5/2/2008 3:02:37 PM
While in High School, I was introduced to my best friend's friend John (callin him john for the purpose of this post). At the time I knew nothing about the guy but I kept talking to him since he was a friend of a friend. Eventually, over time, I found John to be pretty annoying but I didn't really think much of it, so I kept talking to him. Here we are 5-6 years later and this guy is driving me insane!

He has sooooo many annoying quirks about him but i'll only mention a few. One thing that I hate when he does is he'll ask the most obvious questions. Everyone I know is aware of my infatuation with jessica alba. Here he goes one day asking me if I could have sex with her once would i do it? WTF?! what would he expect the answer to that to be? *sigh*. Another thing he does that annoys me is whenever we talk about movies at all, If I haven't seen the movie already he'll launch into telling the story of the whole movie damn near from beginning to end until I step in somewhere and tell him to stop....jeez. One more thing he does really annoys me. If he calls me and i dont answer, he'll get all pissy leaving a message on my phone complaining how i dont pick up when he calls but always pick up when my other friends call....

okay, first off, how does he know that i ALWAYS answer the phone when my other friends call? I miss calls all the time when i'm at home because i keep my phone in my room and i'm usually somewhere else in another room away from the phone, or listening to music too loud to hear it ring. but the thing is, NONE of my other friends that call me and I dont pick up complain like a little puss about it, just him. So i've decided to release this guy from my life, but only one thing slowing down the process.

I let him borrow one of my college books for a class that he's taking that I took already. I figured it'd be messed up to just up and take the book back in the middle of the semester so I figured i'd wait until the semester is over to get my book back and effectively end my relationship with this annoyance. Just two more months and I wont have to deal with this guy anymore.

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Will I Be a Changed Man?
Posted 5/1/2008 3:27:13 PM
In elementary school I was a very social person. Usually the class clown in every class I want put it, laughing it up with everyone daily. Then I graduated to middle school, when the onset of my disorder kicked in.

In middle school, my palmar hyperhidrosis started and progressively made me an introverted person trying to avoid any physical contact with anyone. It was bad enough then, but has gotten worse every year since it started. Now I'm fairly well into my years and this disorder has made me the person I am now. Recently I've started taking action against it, trying to find any relief that could be out there. Turns out there's a machine that can be bought via prescription that costs $675. My health insurance doesn't cover any of the cost so I'll have to come out of pocket for it. Though it's a lot of money, this piece of machinery will be invaluable to me if it relieves this condition i've been struggling with for so many years.

The thought has hit me this morning on whether or not my personality will make an instant change as soon as the benefits of the machine become apparent, or will it occur over time? One thing I know for sure is that I wont have to worry about shaking hands while greeting someone anymore, which will be a load off!

I can't wait till I get the money for this thing.

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maybe i'm the reason i'm pissed...
Posted 12/11/2007 10:46:42 PM
So my brother brings his friend (someone i know personally as well) over here to hang out. Instead of hanging out with him though, she's in my room for most of the day. I'm not paying much attention to her in hopes she'd leave but that never happened...

So I guess she finally got bored and started snooping around as usual. she found 5 silver dollars that i have on my change cup and took one and put it in her pocket practically right in front of me to see. I told her to put it back but then she left the room, almost as if I was supposed to get up and chase her around the house to get my change back. I remained in my room doing what i was doin until I heard a car engine start up. my brother was taking her back home and she still has my silver dollar in her pocket.

at this point i'm pretty pissed because she's always messing around with my money in one way or another. not too long ago she took $20 from my change cup and ran downstairs with it. I followed but stopped when i got to the bottom of the steps and went to get her car keys so i'd have something she'd want too.

now, i've known this girl since about 9th grade and i'm 22 now. she's 21 and all this seems remarkably childish to me, but i'm thinking maybe the reason why it happens is because I allow it. I could've tried telling her with a serious face and voice tone to put the money back but i didn't, for two reasons. I figured if i didn't pay any attention to her she wouldn't feel a need to go through with taking my money, and i also dont think i'd be able to handle being serious with her about it without cussing her out.

then again, that prolly wouldn't be so bad because i'm starting to hold our friendship less and less dear to me.

Normally ppl who act like this wouldn't have a second chance to come to my house, but when she's here she is usually my brother's guest. i'm thinking from now on she wont be allowed to enter my room. i dont keep that kind of company in my home/room. if i have to even think about the possibility of someone taking something from me, no matter what the value, then those kind of ppl don't even enter my house...

i have friends that i could leave alone in my room with maybe $500 in my change cup and wouldn't even have to think twice if they'd be messing around with it...*sigh*...this is all pretty frustrating

P.S. i know it's only a dollar that she took, but it's the principle of the matter. i could care less if it was only a quarter she took.

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a complicated/strange relationship
Posted 11/30/2007 7:48:28 AM
In high school, I was completely new to the school since I entered the school during my junior year moving from another area. I did however meet a girl there that I liked and started dating her. We were in the kind of relationship you'd see in a disney movie or something. Everyone thought that we'd end up getting married. I usually hated hearing those corny comments but whatever. We broke up during my senior year on some bad terms, and we haven't talked much since. I tried keeping in touch with her but that didn't work out too well. Talking to her on the phone now just feels slightly awkward no matter how I don't want it to be.

So as of right now, we RARELY speak to each other. Aside from holidays and birthdays, we don't say a word to each other. Yet, just the other day she invited me to her baby's birthday party, which I thought was a little weird. I never talk to this girl yet i'm invited to something like that.

I didn't go to the party though. Reason why is because it would feel too weird, seeing as the father of her son is the guy she cheated on me with (didn't see that coming did ya). I'm not mad at her or him about it anymore (I don't think), but I still think that'd be an awkward situation for me to show up.

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Interracial Relationships...A Hidden Opposition?
Posted 7/25/2007 8:53:34 PM
I'm eating dinner, being the "fatman" that I am (still dont know why i've been given that nickname). I can't eat without having something to watch, cuz apparently I need more stimulation than just putting stuff in my mouth...talking about food of course. So I flip threw the channels on TV and catch MTV's show True Life. This episode is about people that are getting married, but the twist is that they are interracial couples. I wont go into detail as to what the races were, because that's not important. But the reason why the show is on, is to really show how the parents of the ppl involved in the couples are reacting to the fact that their daughter/son is getting married or planning to get married with their significant other. Obviously, they (the parents) didn't openly voice their opinion on it to the person it's against, but within their own family, the issue was readily apparent.

What I dont understand is why it's weird to date/marry outside your race? I think part of it has to do with the fact that the parents in these families are "old school", and that's how they were raised I guess. Then again, I was raised in a multicultural state and school, so I guess I'm conditioned to not really notice. The funny part of the show, due to my sick sense of humor, was when the grandmother of the girl in one of the couples looked completely disgusted when her granddaughter's fiance came over to visit lmao. She didn't want anything to do with him, pretty funny.

It's all funny to me in a sad way, because everyone is coming to America sooner or later. Get used to the races ppl! They bleed the same red blood that you do...unless its green...then you could be dealing with a huge insect. watch out for those

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keeping secrets...
Posted 7/15/2007 1:06:13 AM
There's something that I've been hiding from most of my friends and even certain people in my family. It's something that I've been very self conscious about up until now and didn't want anyone to know about it. My reason for this is because I was afraid of what the reaction would be. I always exaggerated in my mind what their reaction would be to it, and never wanted to share it with anyone.

Then I was watching some stupid Disney movie on TV and at the end they said something that actually made a lot of sense. They basically said that sometimes the things you hide from people because you were scared how they would react isn't even that bad at all. Chances are they wont have that reaction to it that you've been fearing. As much as I hate Disney movies, they had a point.

I've slowly started letting people know about it and so far so good. Nobody has flipped out on me or anything, and just accepted it. I had to test it out on a small group of ppl first before I went global with it lol. I think I feel more comfortable tellin ppl about it now a lot more than I ever did.

If you're scratching your heads wondering what in the hot hell is this guy talkin about, its a condition called Palmer Hyperhydrosis, which is just a long phrase for sweaty hands. I've had it since elementary school and it's VERY ANNOYING!!!. I used to be very self conscious of ppl even being close to touching my hands because of it, and would pull my hand away from them. hmmmm, I feel slightly better about it now. well, i'm off to sleep. its 2 a.m. over here.

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Untitled...
Posted 7/15/2007 12:51:31 AM
OK, so you trip and stumbled a bit...maybe a lot in a highly populated area, like a school maybe. A couple of ppl laugh at you, and that's supposed to be embarrassing right? You're supposed to feel kind of humiliated, and that's never a good feeling. But that feeling of embarrassment is all in your head. Yeah those ppl might be rolling on the floor, holdin their sides laughin at you, pointing and telling other ppl what just happened, maybe even running down the hall to tell some stranger what happened...lol, ok i'm exaggerating a bit. But 30 minutes later, those same ppl that were laughin wont even be thinking about it, and would've moved on. If you happen to see them again later, so what? Is trippin something to be ashamed of? we are human right?

Sometimes we allow other people's thoughts about us govern our emotions and sometimes actions. Today, my aunt from Jamaica asked me where my girlfriend was and I said I didn't have one. She started laughin, askin me what's wrong and so on. She made it seem as if being single just isn't acceptable to her or something lol. Granted, I am the handsome devil lol. But after I finished talkin to her, I felt depressed. I thought I should hook up with the next girl that I talk to whether I was really into her or not. All this would just be an attempt to please someone other than myself. Retarded isn't it?

I was thinking about it all day. Then something I read came to me. It basically says that "what other people think of you [or about you] is none of your business." What my aunt thinks of me shouldn't have any affect on my life, because after all, it is my life. When I find the kind of girl i'm lookin for, then we can move on from there, but i'm not gonna rush into anything to satisfy that woman (aunt).

At the end of the day, these same ppl who have these thoughts about you and these expectations of you don't hold any real significance. I've always tried to please everyone but I'm not going to do that anymore. I'm not gonna worry about somebody else's perception of me, and try to fix myself according to their image. If I do decide to change something within myself, it's going to be because I want to.

P.S. if this post seems completely random to you, its because it is lol. I got a lot of things on my mind and couldn't really fine tune what I wanted to talk about. ah well, have a good day everyone!!!

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I'd like to change a familiar quote...
Posted 7/12/2007 9:26:20 PM
There's a saying that I'm sure you are all familiar that says that you cannot love someone else until you love yourself. This thought came to me while I was thinking about a million different things that go through my head every hour...seriously I think I need some help. But back to my point. I think that it is possible to love someone while not being too happy with yourself. What it should say is, if you don't even love yourself, you won't be able to get anyone else to. I think that one makes a bit more sense. If you're always unhappy and dislike yourself, ppl will be able to see that and read it from your body language. And who likes being around someone who's always in that kind of mood? It'd get old quick, and nobody would want to be around you. So I feel that in order to get love, you have to love yourself first and be the kind of person ppl would enjoy being around, good spirited, and the kind of person that loves life.

and yes you can quote that :P, if you ever use it say shel said it lol

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Dating: long distance relationships
Posted 7/9/2007 1:45:06 PM
For the most part, I'm convinced that long distance relationships don't work. There might be a rare chance that it'll succeed, who knows. I have been talkin to this girl for a while. I met her while she was living in GA but she ended up moving to Massachusetts for school. At that point, I told her that I wouldn't be up for a long distance relationship. Later on though I started to consider it, even with its slim chance of success. Very recently, however, she told me she was considering switching schools to a medical school here in atlanta. Even though I already had a great clue why she would do that, I asked anyway and she said what I was thinking. Now, I'm not even remotely comfortable with something like that. I wouldn't want to let her move back here, just for me. If the relationship doesn't work out, then what? Does she pack up her stuff and head back to Massachusetts? That's too much pressure for me man lol. Would any of you let the person you're talkin to do something like that?

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Videogames and youth
Posted 7/7/2007 10:53:13 PM
One of my cousins came over the house today and we started talking about a mutual person that we know, and kinda makin fun of him. During this conversation, she called him "childish" because he still plays videogames (he's 22). So is being a gamer past your teenage years immature or childish? Are there still ppl who think this way? I'm not gettin this from any statistic or anything, but I'm sure that most of the guys/girls that play games are from 8-45 years old. Even celebrities well into their years continue to play games, showing up at all the major gaming events. Even so, gaming is still associated with immaturity? That's kinda weird. What are your thoughts, I'm curious

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Sports: Kobe Bryant sucks?
Posted 7/2/2007 9:37:03 PM
Anyone who follows basketball, or sports for that matter, knows that Kobe wants to be traded from the Lakers for various reasons. He has good reason to want to be traded. The Lakers as a team right now sucks, and Kobe is the only shining star there. Kobe's a great player, but he can't do it all himself. His supporting cast is just horrible. A lot of ppl who dislike kobe say that since shaq left, he hasn't been able to win a title, and therefore Kobe sucks?

Well, I haven't watched every single basketball game since the Jordan days, but I'm pretty sure every team that's won the title recently had at least a dynamic duo. Miami has Wade and Shaq, not to mention Alonzo coming off the bench. San Antonio has Parker, Duncan and Ginobli. The whole pheonix team has great players. If anyone can point out a team that's won a title recently with only one superstar and no support, plz tell me.

Even the almighty Jordan had plenty of support through the years, including Tony Kukoc, Steve Kurr, Rodman, and did I forget Scottie Pippen? So making the argument that Kobe sucks without Shaq is just retarded in my mind.

Now about the trade, I hope he ends up on a team that will surround him with good players. Personally I wouldn't mind seeing him in Dallas because that's the only team I can think of where he could possibly go to right now.

P.S. Kobe's the absolute best offensive player in the NBA right now...

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Personal Life: Y I Luv Women
Posted 6/26/2007 10:36:30 AM
I've been thinking about this for two days now and decided the write about it. The topic is why I love women (in regards to dating). There is a quote I read by Anton Checkhov that states:

"Perhaps the feelings we experience when we are in love represents a normal state. Being in love shows a person who he should be."

I came across this quote as a part of my humanities hw assignment, but liked it a lot because it's true. Being in a long-term relationship with a woman will often cause a man to grow as an individual. Granted your with the right kind of woman, she'll cause you to make changes in yourself and your life for the better. After getting out of my last long-term relationship, I found this to be the case after I stopped being silly and hating her for no reason lol. As I look back on our 18 month relationship, I saw the things about myself that kept her with me for that while, and the things that might have pushed her away.

There's another quote from my favorite martial artist, Bruce Lee, that relates to this subject a bit:

"Ever since I was a child I have had this instinctive urge for expansion and growth. To me, the function and duty of a quality human being is the sincere and honest development of one's potential."

I can identify with this quote because I have been doing just that since I graduated from high school. I try to better myself in anyway possible, and this also applies to relationships.

Now, given the right woman is in your life, she'll bring out the best in you, and also the worst (these things happen). But the thing about it is, you have to learn from those times. From the times you may have gotten pissed off and snapped at her, or whatever the case may be. It is all a learning experience, so when you enter your next relationship, you will be smarter about it. In essence, what ends up happening is you're making yourself a better person overall.

So what I'm saying is, being in a relationship with the right girl will make you a better person whether you stay together with her or not. This is why I love women.

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gotta have sex with everyone... -_-
Posted 6/19/2007 9:23:59 AM
I have a friend that I I've known for about six years now. I found out that she was living in Atlanta now and started hanging out. She would come over to my house to hang out with either me or my brother. Because of this, it was only a matter of time before my guy friends met her (or heard about her). Now here's the funny part. She is an attractive girl, but I only see her as a friend. At times she's a lot like an annoying sister. My friends, of course, have been wondering why I'm not trying to hook up with her. Everyday all I hear is "what's wrong with you Shel, you gay or something?". One of them even said "you're not scared of pussy are you?". Personally I dont see why a guy couldn't have an attractive friend that he's not interested in like that. My friends can't seem to grasp that concept. So in order not to be gay in there eyes, I gotta have sex with every cute girl i come across...hilarios. It reminds me of a Dane Cook joke I heard. I'd put the clip of it in here but dont think it would work.

There's nothing wrong with that though. My goal just happens to be a little different than their's.

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Dating: worth the trouble?
Posted 6/18/2007 7:48:44 PM
I'm not sure what the exact quote might be, but I heard a saying that basically said that the things in life that are worth having, are worth fighting for. Essentially, nothing is just given to you. For example, if you wanted a good television (like the HDTV), you have to work hard until you get the money you need ($1K-2K) to get one. Or you could just settle for a normal one and not work as hard. Which brings me to my point. I'm talking to a girl right now that's very attractive. The obstacle isn't her, but her parents. They're very strict in dealing with who she dates because of course, being parents, they're looking out for her best interest. She's been cheated on by guys she was in love with in the past, and her parents (as well as herself) dont want her to get hurt again. So in a way there's a lot of pressure being put on me to be perfect if I did indeed hook up with her. It had me thinking if all this trouble is worth it? She's a very nice girl, and we have a lot in common. There are a lot of things that we don't have in common as well. Bit of a tricky situation.

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Y r men expected 2 b more responsible...
Posted 6/4/2007 10:08:58 PM
My question is why men are expected to be more responsible, for lack of a better word, in relationships? It seems like if you do something similar to what your significant other did, you still get in trouble for it. Here's the scenario:

My father was at work, on the phone with one of his clients. My mother called him, and he didn't pick up. After hanging up, my father called her back roughly 5 minutes later. The first thing my mother says is "why dont you pick up the phone when people call you?". My father says, "don't get angry with me over that, because you never pick up the phone when someone is trying to contact you." My mother immediately hangs up the phone on my father after that comment.

Now, what he said is absolutely true. You would have a better chance being attacked by an elephant while you're walking down the street than getting in touch with my other via cell phone. But when my father misses one phone call, he's the one you jump on? I've had similar situations like this happen with my last gf, but didn't have a newblog account so I couldn't write about it :).

Personally I'm guessing its because she has too much pride to accept the fact that she was wrong. I read a quote not too long ago that says "pride sullies the noblest character". That's the only explanation I can come up with.

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Personal Life: How do u handle these things?
Posted 5/20/2007 2:33:21 PM
Ok, here's the situation. It's not directly related to me but it's something I have to deal with as well:

My mother has a friend she's known from NY for a few months now and she finally decided to move down to Atlanta where my mother is. Lets call this woman Stacey for the purposes of this. Stacey doesn't know how to cook for herself, so she often goes to my mother's house to get something to eat. This is cool I guess, cuz she's not a stranger or anything. But now Stacey's starting to make a habit of it. Every Sunday for the past 2 months or so, Stacey goes to my mother's house to eat. She even bring family members over as well. Last I heard her husband has been coming over to eat as well for the past month or so. My mother wants to tell her to stop coming over to eat all the time, but can't think of a decent way to go about it.

I personally can't think of a nice way to do it, so what would you guys do?

Usually the way I handle things like these would either end up in my friend being mad at me or no longer my friend at all lol. I might need to learn some grace in dealing with stuff like this.

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Dating: love or stupidity?
Posted 12/1/2006 2:00:32 PM
I'm gonna tell a lil bit of a story. Girl has been dating Guy for about a year. Girl started suspecting Guy of cheating. Girl finds out from a friend that Guy actually has been cheatin on her. Girl then brakes up with Guy. While apart, Girl has been very upset with Guy, but missed him a lot at the same time. Eventually, two months later, Girl gets back together with Guy. Everything has been good for a while, but a few months after getting back together, Girl suspects Guy of cheating again. Girl has been suspicious whenever her bf goes out with his friends. Is Guy cheating on her again? Girl doesn't know for sure, but things are definitely a little fishy.

Now what I've been trying to figure out is why "Girl" is staying with the guy. Could she be in love with him to the point where she'd try to work something like this out? Or is she just being ignorant to the situation.

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Psychology??: protecting your self esteem second nature?
Posted 11/11/2006 2:14:50 AM
I noticed something today that happens in almost every situation that's even remotely identicle. I was playing a card game with a friend today, a game I used to play about two years ago. He wanted to play me becuz i was messin wit him sayin i'm practically unbeatable. I played him a few times and won, and make fun of him a just a bit (lol) about it. I'm sure he knew i was kiddin though. But in response he said something like "u musta played this game everyday...", mainly to imply that I had nothing better to do. This doesn't happen much with things that are very sociably acceptable activities like playing sports or something. I used to play basketball like a fiend that couldn't stop taking drugs. If I beat someone one on one and made a lil fun of em about it (like to tease ppl sometimes :P), they never say anything like my other friend said.

I had some other situations I was gonna use as examples, but i clearly forgot them. But is this something that's second nature to do. I c ppl do it all the time. I rarely do that, if at all. I can lose gracefully without resorting to trying to belittle the winner.

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Personal Life: well 2day just made me realize something
Posted 10/31/2006 2:24:13 PM
I just came from my friends house a few minutes ago, all the way home just thinking. I haven't seen her in a few years, I'd say about 3 years. We talk on and off on the phone fairly often though, and she asked that I go visit her. So I went over there earlier to chill with her for a while. Everything was going pretty good. Her boyfriend called her while we were talking and asked what was going on. So she replies "me and sheldon are walking the streets right now" as if to imply that she was cheating on him with me. I laughed a lil and started watching the tv. Then it hit me a few minutes later. She has a significant other to talk to while I'm single. I've never had a problem with being single until that particular moment. After that, she even showed me her "hoochie" (her words) outfit she was planning on wearing to this party she was going to later. So that definitely added to what I was thinking about. I left shortly after and i'm here now still thinking about it...and oh yeah. she's my ex.

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Dating: she likes me, she likes me not
Posted 10/30/2006 4:25:09 PM
Ok. A few months ago, I was really bored at home so I figured I'd hop on yahoo chat. I haven't been on there in a while so I figured it'd be a good way to pass time. I met a girl that day...lets call her Stacey (can you find a more generic name to use...no, i didn't think u could :P) Anyway, our conversations started off friendly, then quickly changed into mindless flirting lol. We've been talkin this way for a while. Then we started talking a lil bit more seriously, cuz we were both single and attracted to each other at the time. So I figured I'd ask her for her number so we could talk more flawlessly even though I type pretty fast. Not trying to brag or anything but its somewhere in the area of 330 words per minute...of course you'd have to divide that by 6 :). But for some reason she doesn't want to give me her number. She even told her brother not to give it to me, yet she continues to talk to me flirting and all. I can't think of a logical reason why she wouldn't want to me give me her number...anyone?

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