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FALLING IN LOVE
Posted 2/5/2007 5:15:56 AM
Falling in love and love are two quiet different feeling. Falling in love can be either a flash of emotions or a first step towards love.
Falling in love is a strong instinctive attraction to the person of the other sex. In case it’s mutual and both lovers will work at their relationships one day that feeling can grow into love.
Falling in love is crazy, it's very physical, it’s when knees are getting weak and temperature rises, love is calm, comfortable and mental.
You have to do nothing to fall in love and often there’s either nothing you can do to stop falling in love. It’s very illogical: you suffer from splashes of emotions, doubts, can’t fully control yourself and it’s all because of a person you usually almost don’t know.
When we fall in love nature shows all it’s power on us. Sometimes it even goes against our sense when we understand that we can’t expect nothing good from these relationships that it’s the wrong person but still can do nothing about ourselves.
Falling in love is the call of our sex but the object is instinctually chosen according to our ideals, dreams and etc although we may not realize it.
We usually fall in love with the appearance of the person, with the way he/she walks, the way he/she talks. Sometimes we impute to our object of love some illusional, ideal qualities and the more we get to know that that person the less we fall for him or her. That’s when the feeling disappears eve faster than it appeared.
The more two persons get to know each other, the more comfortable they get the less sharp, bright and exciting the feeling gets. Some couples continue their relationships and get married in the end some fall apart.
It’s reasonable to say that a second pair of slippers by the bed and one more toothbrush in the bathroom is the end of that crazy falling in love but it also can be the beginning of something more serious.
Different people fall in love more or less often than other. Some are switching partners enjoying crazy emotions which never turn with them into a real love.
Some may fall in love for a short time while having some permanent partner they love, this can even ruin some stable relationships.
Some can claim to be in love with two people at the same time. These are usually two very different people so that one can’t choose which type is better but can neither afford to take both.
In the center of love there’s always only one person.
We may call falling in love some kind of a temporary illness both mental and physical and won’t be very wrong.
Some will say that it’s destructive, selfish, possessive, blind and give falling in love many other unpleasant definitions.
But have those people ever been in love?
Because if they have they would know that it differs from any other illness in on very essential way – it can be very pleasant. People nowadays often turn to antidepressants and drugs because it makes them feel better in the first case and makes them high in the second.
Falling in love is the most natural and the least harmless kind of doping. Yes, it’s not mural, it never looks in the future, in fact it has no future but it gives life some spirit of freshness and youthfulness.
HAPPY VALENTINE'S DAY TO ALL!
Posted 2/5/2007 5:15:56 AM
Falling in love and love are two quiet different feeling. Falling in love can be either a flash of emotions or a first step towards love.
Falling in love is a strong instinctive attraction to the person of the other sex. In case it’s mutual and both lovers will work at their relationships one day that feeling can grow into love.
Falling in love is crazy, it's very physical, it’s when knees are getting weak and temperature rises, love is calm, comfortable and mental.
You have to do nothing to fall in love and often there’s either nothing you can do to stop falling in love. It’s very illogical: you suffer from splashes of emotions, doubts, can’t fully control yourself and it’s all because of a person you usually almost don’t know.
When we fall in love nature shows all it’s power on us. Sometimes it even goes against our sense when we understand that we can’t expect nothing good from these relationships that it’s the wrong person but still can do nothing about ourselves.
Falling in love is the call of our sex but the object is instinctually chosen according to our ideals, dreams and etc although we may not realize it.
We usually fall in love with the appearance of the person, with the way he/she walks, the way he/she talks. Sometimes we impute to our object of love some illusional, ideal qualities and the more we get to know that that person the less we fall for him or her. That’s when the feeling disappears eve faster than it appeared.
The more two persons get to know each other, the more comfortable they get the less sharp, bright and exciting the feeling gets. Some couples continue their relationships and get married in the end some fall apart.
It’s reasonable to say that a second pair of slippers by the bed and one more toothbrush in the bathroom is the end of that crazy falling in love but it also can be the beginning of something more serious.
Different people fall in love more or less often than other. Some are switching partners enjoying crazy emotions which never turn with them into a real love.
Some may fall in love for a short time while having some permanent partner they love, this can even ruin some stable relationships.
Some can claim to be in love with two people at the same time. These are usually two very different people so that one can’t choose which type is better but can neither afford to take both.
In the center of love there’s always only one person.
We may call falling in love some kind of a temporary illness both mental and physical and won’t be very wrong.
Some will say that it’s destructive, selfish, possessive, blind and give falling in love many other unpleasant definitions.
But have those people ever been in love?
Because if they have they would know that it differs from any other illness in on very essential way – it can be very pleasant. People nowadays often turn to antidepressants and drugs because it makes them feel better in the first case and makes them high in the second.
Falling in love is the most natural and the least harmless kind of doping. Yes, it’s not mural, it never looks in the future, in fact it has no future but it gives life some spirit of freshness and youthfulness.
HAPPY VALENTINE'S DAY TO ALL!
LIVING IN A HALF LIFE?
Posted 1/29/2007 1:28:00 PM
Sometimes things are not always what they seem. Sometimes one wants to believe in more than what is there; than what actually exists. Some things are simply not meant for you, and that is the jagged little pill you have to swallow and still smile.
Recently I was told that there was no hope, no future. Recently I have accepted the same. In so few words I managed to watch - being able to do little else - as two of my dreams folded into a sad and crumpled ball, much like an aluminum can smashed under the foot of a zealous child.
I was enlightened with the sting of "you can't" and "it won't." And so I crawl into my little crab shell. And my eyes used to sparkle so...
"And we never failed to fail, it was the easiest thing to do."
People will always let you down, including yourself.
Posted 1/29/2007 1:28:00 PM
Sometimes things are not always what they seem. Sometimes one wants to believe in more than what is there; than what actually exists. Some things are simply not meant for you, and that is the jagged little pill you have to swallow and still smile.
Recently I was told that there was no hope, no future. Recently I have accepted the same. In so few words I managed to watch - being able to do little else - as two of my dreams folded into a sad and crumpled ball, much like an aluminum can smashed under the foot of a zealous child.
I was enlightened with the sting of "you can't" and "it won't." And so I crawl into my little crab shell. And my eyes used to sparkle so...
"And we never failed to fail, it was the easiest thing to do."
People will always let you down, including yourself.
WATCHING THE WIND
Posted 1/29/2007 1:18:54 PM
How can you listen to the invisible? The wind does move the plants and the trees with gusts coming up the gorge, but it all seems random unless you sit for a time with a soul that can get beyond the grocery list and patching the roof.
I haven’t heard from God you might say. Looking at great canopy of the forest and regal meadows stretching out for miles, you have to admit that God’s handiwork is everywhere. All of this depends on Him. What comes before us is now dead and forms of basis of what is ahead.
The only reason we do is listening with an agenda of what we are going to do anyway. He longs to talk ’t hear from God is we are not listening or to you in the voices of the breeze or in the still small voice that is within you. I think they are the same voice. God will use anything to get your attention.
Posted 1/29/2007 1:18:54 PM
How can you listen to the invisible? The wind does move the plants and the trees with gusts coming up the gorge, but it all seems random unless you sit for a time with a soul that can get beyond the grocery list and patching the roof.
I haven’t heard from God you might say. Looking at great canopy of the forest and regal meadows stretching out for miles, you have to admit that God’s handiwork is everywhere. All of this depends on Him. What comes before us is now dead and forms of basis of what is ahead.
The only reason we do is listening with an agenda of what we are going to do anyway. He longs to talk ’t hear from God is we are not listening or to you in the voices of the breeze or in the still small voice that is within you. I think they are the same voice. God will use anything to get your attention.
DO YOU?
Posted 1/29/2007 12:50:06 PM
I've been wondering, when feeling down or sad, do you need to show it off?
When something is bothering you, do you need to write it all over your face?
Do you want the world to know what you are going through by dressing shabbily and not taking care of yourself?
I am not sure why, but I am sorrounded by friends who seems to be carrying the whole world in their shoulders. I've been their confidante, adviser of some sort.
I don't know if they listen to what I tell them. What I observe though, is that they just keep coming back, with the same problem.
Yesterday, another friend told me of problem about her parents and her husband. This isn't new. I've been hearing the same issues over and over. And have been given her blah blahs over and over.
In my attempt to divert the conversation, I told her I have my own cross to carry, that I had bigger problems than hers. That her situation was just a pinch of what I am going through..
What pissed me off is what she said next: that I don't look it. That it is not like me to have big problems.
Damn. What does she think of me? A robot? She doesn't know what hell I am going through, (we're not that close) and she wants me to look like a pathetic soul just like her.
My world still revolves despite the trials, I don't stop dressing up, I don't stop looking good even if I feel rotten deep inside.
Sorry to disappoint her.
Posted 1/29/2007 12:50:06 PM
I've been wondering, when feeling down or sad, do you need to show it off?
When something is bothering you, do you need to write it all over your face?
Do you want the world to know what you are going through by dressing shabbily and not taking care of yourself?
I am not sure why, but I am sorrounded by friends who seems to be carrying the whole world in their shoulders. I've been their confidante, adviser of some sort.
I don't know if they listen to what I tell them. What I observe though, is that they just keep coming back, with the same problem.
Yesterday, another friend told me of problem about her parents and her husband. This isn't new. I've been hearing the same issues over and over. And have been given her blah blahs over and over.
In my attempt to divert the conversation, I told her I have my own cross to carry, that I had bigger problems than hers. That her situation was just a pinch of what I am going through..
What pissed me off is what she said next: that I don't look it. That it is not like me to have big problems.
Damn. What does she think of me? A robot? She doesn't know what hell I am going through, (we're not that close) and she wants me to look like a pathetic soul just like her.
My world still revolves despite the trials, I don't stop dressing up, I don't stop looking good even if I feel rotten deep inside.
Sorry to disappoint her.
CHINESE PROVERBS
Posted 1/29/2007 12:44:27 PM
He who strikes the first blow admits he's lost the argument.
He who asks is a fool for five minutes, but he who does not ask remains a fool forever.
A gem cannot be polished without friction, nor man perfected without trials.
By filling one's head instead of one's pocket, one cannot be robbed.
Patience is a tree with bitter roots that bear sweet fruits.
It is impossible to change your basic characteristics
Elephant tusks cannot grow out of a dog's mouth.
Set yourself as the standard.
Better to light a candle than to curse the darkness
"The mistake of a wise man is worth the mistake of a thousand fools."
I've always liked the last one, myself.
Posted 1/29/2007 12:44:27 PM
He who strikes the first blow admits he's lost the argument.
He who asks is a fool for five minutes, but he who does not ask remains a fool forever.
A gem cannot be polished without friction, nor man perfected without trials.
By filling one's head instead of one's pocket, one cannot be robbed.
Patience is a tree with bitter roots that bear sweet fruits.
It is impossible to change your basic characteristics
Elephant tusks cannot grow out of a dog's mouth.
Set yourself as the standard.
Better to light a candle than to curse the darkness
"The mistake of a wise man is worth the mistake of a thousand fools."
I've always liked the last one, myself.
IN SILENCE
Posted 1/29/2007 12:41:08 PM
There are times in our lives when we feel that we are able to conquer everything. These are the best times. But there are times when we feel so low, everything just isn't right.
I know you've been an adviser or a counselor once in your life. Or you've been the person seeking advice.
Sometimes you seek a person just because of the company.
Sometimes no words could ease the burden or the pain....
Sometimes it is best not to say anything at all.
Do you agree?
JUST A THOUGHT :)
Of course! Sometimes just the presence of someone even if that someone does not affirm or negate whatever you have to say, is quite powerful. Their presence is enough to give you a feeling of strength, to make you realize that they are there no matter what the circumstances are.
There were times in my life that I was told by another person that my presence in his life was quite helpful. Even if I am not always physically there, I bring out the best in him. Oh well...that's in the past now. There are people like that in my life too. Knowing that they are just one phone call away, makes me believe that I can overcome whatever obstacle is there.
There is a famous proverb "If speech is silver, silence is gold". At such times it is really comfortable and provides a great solace.
No words, just open arms and hugs to let you know that he understands your pain.
Isn't it good to know that there are persons who are willing to be there, just being "there" suffices.
Oftentimes, loving and caring gestures are more important than words: a shoulder to cry on, a tap in the back, a gentle touch, a firm grip.
Yes, there are people whose mere presence provides the needed comfort.
This what makes us humans unique.....to be able to make silence work.
There are many times in life where there aren't any words that can comfort. Just having someone 'there' offering support is often enough to let you know you aren't alone.
It often isn't the words that matter at all....it's simply being there.....and showing that you care.
The best help you can give is your presence. Right there, right when you are needed. And it doesn't have to be a physical presence either. Sometimes it's enough just few words, a short call.
Sometimes sharing is painful and takes energy and the simple notion of a presence (a friend or a lover) is soothing enough.
I agree that there are times when words aren't enough, and times when words aren't what is needed to help. There are times when words would spoil the moment and when words would sound empty. But I also agree that you can be there for people without any words and that it almost always is appreciated even if it's a small gesture.
Posted 1/29/2007 12:41:08 PM
There are times in our lives when we feel that we are able to conquer everything. These are the best times. But there are times when we feel so low, everything just isn't right.
I know you've been an adviser or a counselor once in your life. Or you've been the person seeking advice.
Sometimes you seek a person just because of the company.
Sometimes no words could ease the burden or the pain....
Sometimes it is best not to say anything at all.
Do you agree?
JUST A THOUGHT :)
Of course! Sometimes just the presence of someone even if that someone does not affirm or negate whatever you have to say, is quite powerful. Their presence is enough to give you a feeling of strength, to make you realize that they are there no matter what the circumstances are.
There were times in my life that I was told by another person that my presence in his life was quite helpful. Even if I am not always physically there, I bring out the best in him. Oh well...that's in the past now. There are people like that in my life too. Knowing that they are just one phone call away, makes me believe that I can overcome whatever obstacle is there.
There is a famous proverb "If speech is silver, silence is gold". At such times it is really comfortable and provides a great solace.
No words, just open arms and hugs to let you know that he understands your pain.
Isn't it good to know that there are persons who are willing to be there, just being "there" suffices.
Oftentimes, loving and caring gestures are more important than words: a shoulder to cry on, a tap in the back, a gentle touch, a firm grip.
Yes, there are people whose mere presence provides the needed comfort.
This what makes us humans unique.....to be able to make silence work.
There are many times in life where there aren't any words that can comfort. Just having someone 'there' offering support is often enough to let you know you aren't alone.
It often isn't the words that matter at all....it's simply being there.....and showing that you care.
The best help you can give is your presence. Right there, right when you are needed. And it doesn't have to be a physical presence either. Sometimes it's enough just few words, a short call.
Sometimes sharing is painful and takes energy and the simple notion of a presence (a friend or a lover) is soothing enough.
I agree that there are times when words aren't enough, and times when words aren't what is needed to help. There are times when words would spoil the moment and when words would sound empty. But I also agree that you can be there for people without any words and that it almost always is appreciated even if it's a small gesture.
LIFE, LOVE AND LONG TERM RELATIONSHIPS
Posted 1/29/2007 11:14:34 AM
Love is such a strange beast! The first time you realise that you have something for that other person. The excitement and wanting every second to hear that other persons voice and you just can not get enough of that person. You want to be with them all the time! You go out on dates all the time, dinner, movie, dancing, and then you meet the future in-laws. That is when it hits you that this is the one that you want to spend the rest of your life with! The feelings for this one person you feel is like nothing you have ever felt for anyone else. The dreams of life with this person start to fill your every thought and then you get married. Then honey moon is just out of this world and life seems to be the best it ever has been before.
Then you move in with each other and things go great for a few years. One day the sparks just seems to fade away! Why does this happen? I have sat wondered about this one question for years.
Is our lives on such a fast pace all the time that we just seem to miss what made the spark to begin with? Do we all have this primeval need for the challenge of the chase and once we catch what we want, it goes away? I realise that the spark is not the love, trust, respect, and caring that you have for that person but why does it leave us? One would think that the spark would greatly increase all those issues! Tell me why you think this spark leaves us!
JUST A THOUGHT :)
The spark leaves because you get to comfortable with that person and you think that just because you already have them that they are yours to keep and you don't need to bother trying to communicate.. ....wrong!! you have to constantly communicate.
CONSTANTLY thats the key to a great relationship. If you can have that n trust and love, then you're on a great path. you have to listen as well.
Don't be selfish and know that you can't always have your way.
Come up with stupid things to laugh about.. thats importnat too.. communicating together, praying together, laughing togther.
Posted 1/29/2007 11:14:34 AM
Love is such a strange beast! The first time you realise that you have something for that other person. The excitement and wanting every second to hear that other persons voice and you just can not get enough of that person. You want to be with them all the time! You go out on dates all the time, dinner, movie, dancing, and then you meet the future in-laws. That is when it hits you that this is the one that you want to spend the rest of your life with! The feelings for this one person you feel is like nothing you have ever felt for anyone else. The dreams of life with this person start to fill your every thought and then you get married. Then honey moon is just out of this world and life seems to be the best it ever has been before.
Then you move in with each other and things go great for a few years. One day the sparks just seems to fade away! Why does this happen? I have sat wondered about this one question for years.
Is our lives on such a fast pace all the time that we just seem to miss what made the spark to begin with? Do we all have this primeval need for the challenge of the chase and once we catch what we want, it goes away? I realise that the spark is not the love, trust, respect, and caring that you have for that person but why does it leave us? One would think that the spark would greatly increase all those issues! Tell me why you think this spark leaves us!
JUST A THOUGHT :)
The spark leaves because you get to comfortable with that person and you think that just because you already have them that they are yours to keep and you don't need to bother trying to communicate.. ....wrong!! you have to constantly communicate.
CONSTANTLY thats the key to a great relationship. If you can have that n trust and love, then you're on a great path. you have to listen as well.
Don't be selfish and know that you can't always have your way.
Come up with stupid things to laugh about.. thats importnat too.. communicating together, praying together, laughing togther.
WIZARDS REALM (The smell of pleasure, passion and sex)
Posted 1/29/2007 11:07:33 AM
Have you ever wondered why some people seem to have a great relationship when others do not?
Many studies have been done on the smells that attract people to each other!
What if you could bring the magic of long ago into the modern realm of today? You could make a fortune if you could find the one smell that attracts the perfect mate!
Be honest with yourself, everyone of us has been attracted to the smell of there mate. When that person is away from you, you will cling to something of there's that has their smell on it to help you remember them.
Why do you think that is?
Is the smell glands really that important in the one we choose to be with?
With all these thoughts in your mind right now, I want you to ask yourself one important thing of all.
Why do we spend so much money on the false smells?
Is it because we are looking for someone different than we really would chose?
Is it because we think the other false smells will attract more to us?
Or is it just the advertising that has us to believe we will find that special person if we have that odor on instead of our own?
What do you think?
Posted 1/29/2007 11:07:33 AM
Have you ever wondered why some people seem to have a great relationship when others do not?
Many studies have been done on the smells that attract people to each other!
What if you could bring the magic of long ago into the modern realm of today? You could make a fortune if you could find the one smell that attracts the perfect mate!
Be honest with yourself, everyone of us has been attracted to the smell of there mate. When that person is away from you, you will cling to something of there's that has their smell on it to help you remember them.
Why do you think that is?
Is the smell glands really that important in the one we choose to be with?
With all these thoughts in your mind right now, I want you to ask yourself one important thing of all.
Why do we spend so much money on the false smells?
Is it because we are looking for someone different than we really would chose?
Is it because we think the other false smells will attract more to us?
Or is it just the advertising that has us to believe we will find that special person if we have that odor on instead of our own?
What do you think?
THE GIRL IN THE WINDOW
Posted 1/26/2007 11:24:09 AM
She was as Irish as "Paddy's pig", yet her olive skin glowed with evidence that she had the blood of the Spanish Conquistador's. Her eyes sparkled as she sat by her window and I wondered who this vision of an Angel could be. I wanted to say something, but she was three stories up. When she stood to look at me my heart throbbed wildly with excitement. Her cut off shorts showcased a beautiful pair of legs.
"How could I only be living two blocks away from her and never have noticed her before,?" I wondered to myself.
But then sadness crept into my heart when I remembered that I was on Grandma's block and I did everything to avoid walking on her block since she had passed away a few years ago, because I missed her and was so pained when ever I walked on the street were she once lived.
Then I remebered that I was on that street because my Mom had asked me to pick up something at the store that day and I had to pass by there to get to that store. So I continued on to the store and never gave the girl in the window another thought again.
Time passed and I started to feel very lonely soon after my high school sweet heart went to California to become a professional figure skater. A lot of girls liked me but I wasn't very happy dating them because none of them could fill the void.
Determined to search the world for my sould mate I joined the Navy. I met every type of woman that inhabited planet earth. Some were beautiful, some were very bright, but alas, none of them qualified to be my soulmate. Soon after leaving the Navy, I settled down to a mundane life again and very ordinary dating that while being okay, always seemed to lack that special ingredient.
But often times I wondered if there really ever could be a recipe for a soul mate. Was I just a hopeless romantic that was setting a goal that was just forever out of reach. Then I would wonder how I would even know if I found a soul mate.
I thought, "Will a bell go off in my head or something."
But as time passed and I dated many beautiful women the empty feeling deep down inside me remained. No matter what I did, I was incomplete. I was desperate to feel whole, but wholeness still eluded me. I even turned to online dating sites to see if what I was looking for was out there somewhere.
Then one day I went into a rant on an online dating site because they didn't have a box to check that said spiritual but not religious and it disturbed me deeply to think that people on that site might get the idea that I'm not spiritual just because I don't follow any one religion with lock step authority.
To my surprise I got a trememdous amount of letters in response to my religious tirade, and having a photographic memory, I stumbled upon one of the letters that contained the profile picture of that girl in the window that had lived two blocks away from where I once lived. I made no mention of that too her. I even teased her a bit and told her I thought she was Italian.
I kind of liked her and we exchanged a few messages that at first were all about religion and nothing else. Then after a while she mentioned that she was a writer and she had read some of the things that I had written. As weeks marched on I complained to her that I was having trouble with my studies for a ten hour test I had to take soon for a certification. And then she wrote that she said a prayer that I would pass the test.
And then all of a sudden it hit me like a ton of bricks. I had taveled all the way around the world to find my soul mate, but all that time, she was only living two blocks away from me.
** This is the story of Timothy McCorkell.
Posted 1/26/2007 11:24:09 AM
She was as Irish as "Paddy's pig", yet her olive skin glowed with evidence that she had the blood of the Spanish Conquistador's. Her eyes sparkled as she sat by her window and I wondered who this vision of an Angel could be. I wanted to say something, but she was three stories up. When she stood to look at me my heart throbbed wildly with excitement. Her cut off shorts showcased a beautiful pair of legs.
"How could I only be living two blocks away from her and never have noticed her before,?" I wondered to myself.
But then sadness crept into my heart when I remembered that I was on Grandma's block and I did everything to avoid walking on her block since she had passed away a few years ago, because I missed her and was so pained when ever I walked on the street were she once lived.
Then I remebered that I was on that street because my Mom had asked me to pick up something at the store that day and I had to pass by there to get to that store. So I continued on to the store and never gave the girl in the window another thought again.
Time passed and I started to feel very lonely soon after my high school sweet heart went to California to become a professional figure skater. A lot of girls liked me but I wasn't very happy dating them because none of them could fill the void.
Determined to search the world for my sould mate I joined the Navy. I met every type of woman that inhabited planet earth. Some were beautiful, some were very bright, but alas, none of them qualified to be my soulmate. Soon after leaving the Navy, I settled down to a mundane life again and very ordinary dating that while being okay, always seemed to lack that special ingredient.
But often times I wondered if there really ever could be a recipe for a soul mate. Was I just a hopeless romantic that was setting a goal that was just forever out of reach. Then I would wonder how I would even know if I found a soul mate.
I thought, "Will a bell go off in my head or something."
But as time passed and I dated many beautiful women the empty feeling deep down inside me remained. No matter what I did, I was incomplete. I was desperate to feel whole, but wholeness still eluded me. I even turned to online dating sites to see if what I was looking for was out there somewhere.
Then one day I went into a rant on an online dating site because they didn't have a box to check that said spiritual but not religious and it disturbed me deeply to think that people on that site might get the idea that I'm not spiritual just because I don't follow any one religion with lock step authority.
To my surprise I got a trememdous amount of letters in response to my religious tirade, and having a photographic memory, I stumbled upon one of the letters that contained the profile picture of that girl in the window that had lived two blocks away from where I once lived. I made no mention of that too her. I even teased her a bit and told her I thought she was Italian.
I kind of liked her and we exchanged a few messages that at first were all about religion and nothing else. Then after a while she mentioned that she was a writer and she had read some of the things that I had written. As weeks marched on I complained to her that I was having trouble with my studies for a ten hour test I had to take soon for a certification. And then she wrote that she said a prayer that I would pass the test.
And then all of a sudden it hit me like a ton of bricks. I had taveled all the way around the world to find my soul mate, but all that time, she was only living two blocks away from me.
** This is the story of Timothy McCorkell.
THE TIME OF YOUR LIFE
Posted 1/24/2007 12:53:37 PM
In some parts of the world there is famine. But it's not a shortage of food. It's a shortage of time. You can tell people are starving when they keep saying, "I don't have enough time… or…I have too much to do….or ….I'm just too busy". Time pressure comes when we try to do more in less time than it would take if we did not create the need to hurry! Time pressure comes when we perceive there is too much to do in a given time. But it's just a perception. The feeling of time pressure is always entirely the result of our own perception.
'Time famine' usually occurs in the so called 'developed' countries where speed is now God. And that's why by far the most popular workshop/course/seminar in those countries is... yes, you guessed, Time Management! But few realise that time management is an oxymoron. Time cannot be managed. Time shows up only to pass by. Time passes and never stops passing. The one thing in this world that never stops, and can never be stopped, is the flow of time.
Once upon a time, sometime in the past, there was a young and brilliant carpenter. One day he built the most exquisite box. On the box he painted the most beautiful face and two perfect arms. That night, at around midnight, he went into the forests, high the mountains, and he whispered to TIME saying, "If you enter this box I promise you will control almost all human beings on this earth".
After a moments hesitation TIME replied, "Are you sure?" To which the carpenter replied, "Absolutely certain. They will think they are controlling you, but it will be you that controls them. It's perfect".
And so TIME accepted his offer and entered the box. The young carpenter returned down the mountain to his home and placed the box in the middle of high shelf so that all could see its face. And he called that box a clock. It would not be long before the clock was mistaken for TIME itself and everyone would look at the clock for guidance.
Every time we think about time we tend to look at a clock somewhere. We organise our life around periods and moments in clock time. We don't realise we look only at a machine, that we are surrendering to a false concept of time. The clock is not time, it is simply our way of attempting to measure our experience of the space between two events.
Events are the punctuation marks that give meaning to our life, which is like a long sentence 'in time'. Clock time is what we use to estimate the space between here and then. It is how we measure the gap between then and now. You don't manage time because it does not exist in any form that can be managed.
Time has no independent existence apart from the order of events by which we measure it. Everything that exists 'in time' is an event, and that means Time Management is really 'Event Management'.
So off we go on our Event Management workshop disguised as a Time Management workshop, and because 'management' implies control the first question is how do we control events? It's not long before the realisation dawns that you don't!
In fact you cannot control anything more than three and half feet away from you! And besides, most events are other people! And that is the one thing you can never control…. ever.
Unfortunately many, if not most, people beg to differ and live most of their lives believing, albeit subconsciously, that they can control what they cannot control i.e. other people. Little do they realise that is where most of their stress comes from.
When you do realise that your stress is coming from your attempts to control what you cannot control, you realise that Event Management is really Stress Management. Actually stress management is another of those oxymorons.
Whenever you are stressed you are not managing anything, the stress is managing you. If, by good fortune, you encounter a good stress management teacher in a world now saturated with stress management teachers, you will learn a) there is no such thing as positive stress and b) all your stress is entirely self-created, always! Which means Stress Management is really Self Management.
It's not the other person or the event that causes your stress, it's your response that contains the stress. This can be a life changing insight for most people, as it appears that around 99% of us have been taught the opposite i.e. that we are victims of other people and the circumstances we find ourselves in.
Slowly, if not suddenly, it dawns that prevention and freedom from stress requires deep changes to the way you respond to life as it happens around you. That means Self Management is really Change Management. Not changing anyone else, or anything else, except yourself.
And that means challenging your beliefs so that you can choose different perceptions in order to change your thinking, as all stress at a mental level is just negative thinking. Which means the workshop is not something that you attend 'out there' but something that you create and attend almost entirely within your own consciousness.
And yet, even when you realize the need to change your responses, and the inner work you need to do, there will be one final, and sometimes fatal, barrier to you attending your own inner workshop. And it's that voice, sometimes faint, sometimes loud, that says, "But I just don't have the time!" This is the voice of 'urgent avoidance'. Behind the voice is the fear of facing what is most important.
And so we come full circle. Time Management IS Event Management IS Stress Management IS Self Management IS Change Management. And it will always take some time! Unless of course you learn to live outside of time, and then you don't need to change anything at all.
Posted 1/24/2007 12:53:37 PM
In some parts of the world there is famine. But it's not a shortage of food. It's a shortage of time. You can tell people are starving when they keep saying, "I don't have enough time… or…I have too much to do….or ….I'm just too busy". Time pressure comes when we try to do more in less time than it would take if we did not create the need to hurry! Time pressure comes when we perceive there is too much to do in a given time. But it's just a perception. The feeling of time pressure is always entirely the result of our own perception.
'Time famine' usually occurs in the so called 'developed' countries where speed is now God. And that's why by far the most popular workshop/course/seminar in those countries is... yes, you guessed, Time Management! But few realise that time management is an oxymoron. Time cannot be managed. Time shows up only to pass by. Time passes and never stops passing. The one thing in this world that never stops, and can never be stopped, is the flow of time.
Once upon a time, sometime in the past, there was a young and brilliant carpenter. One day he built the most exquisite box. On the box he painted the most beautiful face and two perfect arms. That night, at around midnight, he went into the forests, high the mountains, and he whispered to TIME saying, "If you enter this box I promise you will control almost all human beings on this earth".
After a moments hesitation TIME replied, "Are you sure?" To which the carpenter replied, "Absolutely certain. They will think they are controlling you, but it will be you that controls them. It's perfect".
And so TIME accepted his offer and entered the box. The young carpenter returned down the mountain to his home and placed the box in the middle of high shelf so that all could see its face. And he called that box a clock. It would not be long before the clock was mistaken for TIME itself and everyone would look at the clock for guidance.
Every time we think about time we tend to look at a clock somewhere. We organise our life around periods and moments in clock time. We don't realise we look only at a machine, that we are surrendering to a false concept of time. The clock is not time, it is simply our way of attempting to measure our experience of the space between two events.
Events are the punctuation marks that give meaning to our life, which is like a long sentence 'in time'. Clock time is what we use to estimate the space between here and then. It is how we measure the gap between then and now. You don't manage time because it does not exist in any form that can be managed.
Time has no independent existence apart from the order of events by which we measure it. Everything that exists 'in time' is an event, and that means Time Management is really 'Event Management'.
So off we go on our Event Management workshop disguised as a Time Management workshop, and because 'management' implies control the first question is how do we control events? It's not long before the realisation dawns that you don't!
In fact you cannot control anything more than three and half feet away from you! And besides, most events are other people! And that is the one thing you can never control…. ever.
Unfortunately many, if not most, people beg to differ and live most of their lives believing, albeit subconsciously, that they can control what they cannot control i.e. other people. Little do they realise that is where most of their stress comes from.
When you do realise that your stress is coming from your attempts to control what you cannot control, you realise that Event Management is really Stress Management. Actually stress management is another of those oxymorons.
Whenever you are stressed you are not managing anything, the stress is managing you. If, by good fortune, you encounter a good stress management teacher in a world now saturated with stress management teachers, you will learn a) there is no such thing as positive stress and b) all your stress is entirely self-created, always! Which means Stress Management is really Self Management.
It's not the other person or the event that causes your stress, it's your response that contains the stress. This can be a life changing insight for most people, as it appears that around 99% of us have been taught the opposite i.e. that we are victims of other people and the circumstances we find ourselves in.
Slowly, if not suddenly, it dawns that prevention and freedom from stress requires deep changes to the way you respond to life as it happens around you. That means Self Management is really Change Management. Not changing anyone else, or anything else, except yourself.
And that means challenging your beliefs so that you can choose different perceptions in order to change your thinking, as all stress at a mental level is just negative thinking. Which means the workshop is not something that you attend 'out there' but something that you create and attend almost entirely within your own consciousness.
And yet, even when you realize the need to change your responses, and the inner work you need to do, there will be one final, and sometimes fatal, barrier to you attending your own inner workshop. And it's that voice, sometimes faint, sometimes loud, that says, "But I just don't have the time!" This is the voice of 'urgent avoidance'. Behind the voice is the fear of facing what is most important.
And so we come full circle. Time Management IS Event Management IS Stress Management IS Self Management IS Change Management. And it will always take some time! Unless of course you learn to live outside of time, and then you don't need to change anything at all.
BRAIN DAMAGING HABITS
Posted 1/24/2007 11:49:12 AM
1. No Breakfast
People who do not take breakfast are going to have a lower blood sugar level. This leads to an insufficient supply of nutrients to the brain causing brain degeneration.
2. Overeating
It causes hardening of the brain arteries, leading to a decrease in mental power.
3. Smoking
It causes multiple brain shrinkage and may lead to Alzheimer disease.
4. High Sugar Consumption
Too much sugar will interrupt the absorption of proteins and nutrients causing malnutrition and may interfere with brain development.
5. Air Pollution
The brain is the largest oxygen consumer in our body. Inhaling polluted air decreases the supply of oxygen to the brain, bringing about a decrease in brain efficiency.
6. Sleep Deprivation
Sleep allows our brain to rest. Long term deprivation from sleep will accelerate the death of brain cells.
7. Head covered while sleeping
Sleeping with the head covered, increases the concentration of carbon dioxide and decrease concentration of oxygen that may lead to brain damaging effects.
8. Working your brain during illness
Working hard or studying with sickness may lead to a decrease in effectiveness of the brain as well as damage the brain.
9. Lacking in stimulating thoughts
Thinking is the best way to train our brain, lacking in brain stimulation thoughts may cause brain shrinkage.
10. Talking Rarely
Intellectual conversations will promote the efficiency of the brain.
The main causes of liver damage are:
1. Sleeping too late and waking up too late are main cause.
2. Not urinating in the morning.
3. Too much eating.
4. Skipping breakfast.
5. Consuming too much medication.
6. Consuming too much preservatives, additives, food coloring, and artificial sweetener.
7. Consuming unhealthy cooking oil. As much as possible reduce cooking oil use when frying, which includes even the best cooking oils like olive oil. Do not consume fried foods when you are tired, except if the body is very fit.
8. Consuming raw (overly done) foods also add to the burden of liver.
Veggies should be eaten raw or cooked 3-5 parts. Fried veggies should be finished in one sitting, do not store.
We should prevent this without necessarily spending more. We just have to adopt a good daily lifestyle and eating habits. Maintaining good eating habits and time condition are very important for our bodies to absorb and get rid of unnecessary chemicals according to "schedule."
Because :
Evening at 9 - 11 PM : is the time for eliminating unnecessary/toxic chemicals (detoxification) from the antibody system (lymph nodes). This time duration should be spent by relaxing or listening to music. If during this time a housewife is still in an unrelaxed state such as washing the dishes or monitoring children doing their homework, this will have a negative impact on health.
Evening at 11pm - 1 am : is the detoxification process in the liver, and ideally should be done in a deep sleep state.
Early morning 1 - 3 am : detoxification process in the gall, also ideally done in a deep sleep state.
Early morning 3 - 5 am : detoxification in the lungs. Therefore there will sometimes be a severe cough for cough sufferers during this time. Since the detoxification process had reached the respiratory tract, there is no need to take cough medicine so as not to interfere with toxin removal process.
Morning 5 - 7am : detoxification in the colon, you should empty your bowel.
Morning 7 - 9 am : absorption of nutrients in the small intestine, you should be having breakfast at this time. Breakfast should be earlier, before 6:30 am , for those who are sick. Breakfast before 7:30 am is very beneficial to those wanting to stay fit. Those who always skip breakfast, they should change their habits, and it is still better to eat breakfast late until 9 -10 am rather than no meal at all.
Sleeping so late and waking up too late will disrupt the process of removing unnecessary chemicals. Aside from that, midnight to 4:00 am is the time when the bone marrow produces blood. Therefore, have a good sleep and don't sleep late.
Posted 1/24/2007 11:49:12 AM
1. No Breakfast
People who do not take breakfast are going to have a lower blood sugar level. This leads to an insufficient supply of nutrients to the brain causing brain degeneration.
2. Overeating
It causes hardening of the brain arteries, leading to a decrease in mental power.
3. Smoking
It causes multiple brain shrinkage and may lead to Alzheimer disease.
4. High Sugar Consumption
Too much sugar will interrupt the absorption of proteins and nutrients causing malnutrition and may interfere with brain development.
5. Air Pollution
The brain is the largest oxygen consumer in our body. Inhaling polluted air decreases the supply of oxygen to the brain, bringing about a decrease in brain efficiency.
6. Sleep Deprivation
Sleep allows our brain to rest. Long term deprivation from sleep will accelerate the death of brain cells.
7. Head covered while sleeping
Sleeping with the head covered, increases the concentration of carbon dioxide and decrease concentration of oxygen that may lead to brain damaging effects.
8. Working your brain during illness
Working hard or studying with sickness may lead to a decrease in effectiveness of the brain as well as damage the brain.
9. Lacking in stimulating thoughts
Thinking is the best way to train our brain, lacking in brain stimulation thoughts may cause brain shrinkage.
10. Talking Rarely
Intellectual conversations will promote the efficiency of the brain.
The main causes of liver damage are:
1. Sleeping too late and waking up too late are main cause.
2. Not urinating in the morning.
3. Too much eating.
4. Skipping breakfast.
5. Consuming too much medication.
6. Consuming too much preservatives, additives, food coloring, and artificial sweetener.
7. Consuming unhealthy cooking oil. As much as possible reduce cooking oil use when frying, which includes even the best cooking oils like olive oil. Do not consume fried foods when you are tired, except if the body is very fit.
8. Consuming raw (overly done) foods also add to the burden of liver.
Veggies should be eaten raw or cooked 3-5 parts. Fried veggies should be finished in one sitting, do not store.
We should prevent this without necessarily spending more. We just have to adopt a good daily lifestyle and eating habits. Maintaining good eating habits and time condition are very important for our bodies to absorb and get rid of unnecessary chemicals according to "schedule."
Because :
Evening at 9 - 11 PM : is the time for eliminating unnecessary/toxic chemicals (detoxification) from the antibody system (lymph nodes). This time duration should be spent by relaxing or listening to music. If during this time a housewife is still in an unrelaxed state such as washing the dishes or monitoring children doing their homework, this will have a negative impact on health.
Evening at 11pm - 1 am : is the detoxification process in the liver, and ideally should be done in a deep sleep state.
Early morning 1 - 3 am : detoxification process in the gall, also ideally done in a deep sleep state.
Early morning 3 - 5 am : detoxification in the lungs. Therefore there will sometimes be a severe cough for cough sufferers during this time. Since the detoxification process had reached the respiratory tract, there is no need to take cough medicine so as not to interfere with toxin removal process.
Morning 5 - 7am : detoxification in the colon, you should empty your bowel.
Morning 7 - 9 am : absorption of nutrients in the small intestine, you should be having breakfast at this time. Breakfast should be earlier, before 6:30 am , for those who are sick. Breakfast before 7:30 am is very beneficial to those wanting to stay fit. Those who always skip breakfast, they should change their habits, and it is still better to eat breakfast late until 9 -10 am rather than no meal at all.
Sleeping so late and waking up too late will disrupt the process of removing unnecessary chemicals. Aside from that, midnight to 4:00 am is the time when the bone marrow produces blood. Therefore, have a good sleep and don't sleep late.
THE MANY FACES OF SHYNESS
Posted 1/24/2007 11:42:56 AM
Does this sound like you? A lot of people do not understand that shyness can appear in different forms.
Even someone who is outgoing can be shy in certain circumstances. Even someone who appears argumentative and agressive can be shy. Read on.
My name is MARJI.
If you met me today you would never think that at one time I was shy. Many times while talking with my family I would be overcome with annoyance and irritation.
I actually would become quite aggressive and argumentative. I never thought this had anything to do with shyness. But it did.
By following one simple exercise in the book (No More Shyness) I was able to and end this behavior. I feel so much better now. It was so simple and it has made my relationship with my family truly outstanding.
End Shyness Now
www.notshynow.com
Posted 1/24/2007 11:42:56 AM
Does this sound like you? A lot of people do not understand that shyness can appear in different forms.
Even someone who is outgoing can be shy in certain circumstances. Even someone who appears argumentative and agressive can be shy. Read on.
My name is MARJI.
If you met me today you would never think that at one time I was shy. Many times while talking with my family I would be overcome with annoyance and irritation.
I actually would become quite aggressive and argumentative. I never thought this had anything to do with shyness. But it did.
By following one simple exercise in the book (No More Shyness) I was able to and end this behavior. I feel so much better now. It was so simple and it has made my relationship with my family truly outstanding.
End Shyness Now
www.notshynow.com
TODAY'S TEARS...TOMORROW'S PASSION
Posted 1/24/2007 11:34:50 AM
Today has been one of those days, feeling like my heart is breaking for no real reason. They don't come very often but when they do they make up for lost time. The hardest part is the tears don't stop and I am trying to hide it from everybody.
I have always fought against my tears. They have never really done anything for me. They don't make someone love you, or stay, they don't bring back people that have died and they don't make awful things that someone said any better.
They don't take away pain, hurt, loneliness. For me they serve no purpose and it is a waste of time. I haved hated myself for crying, I can cry over other people but to cry over me just feels like beating a dead dog.
When I get like this I want to run, run away from myself. But I have to be strong and go on. I don't want any sympathy, I don't write to get that. I just want to know that someone knows how I feel, just to know I was here.
I often think if I had to choose between calming love or passionate love. I am afraid that passion would win.
Just a thought :)
Crying cleanses my insides (and is good) but usually just makes my eyes puffy.
The purpose of crying: to let go of the hurt and pain, let the tears come, let myself just be for a spell...then, dry my tears, ready to face the new challenge. we all need a rest now and then, don't we? :>
Posted 1/24/2007 11:34:50 AM
Today has been one of those days, feeling like my heart is breaking for no real reason. They don't come very often but when they do they make up for lost time. The hardest part is the tears don't stop and I am trying to hide it from everybody.
I have always fought against my tears. They have never really done anything for me. They don't make someone love you, or stay, they don't bring back people that have died and they don't make awful things that someone said any better.
They don't take away pain, hurt, loneliness. For me they serve no purpose and it is a waste of time. I haved hated myself for crying, I can cry over other people but to cry over me just feels like beating a dead dog.
When I get like this I want to run, run away from myself. But I have to be strong and go on. I don't want any sympathy, I don't write to get that. I just want to know that someone knows how I feel, just to know I was here.
I often think if I had to choose between calming love or passionate love. I am afraid that passion would win.
Just a thought :)
Crying cleanses my insides (and is good) but usually just makes my eyes puffy.
The purpose of crying: to let go of the hurt and pain, let the tears come, let myself just be for a spell...then, dry my tears, ready to face the new challenge. we all need a rest now and then, don't we? :>
LOVE TO ME
Posted 1/22/2007 11:54:36 AM
Wwell what I think about love is... you never know what you have until it's gone.
You might not know it when it's happening but when something happens to upset the relationship then you will know!
You won't be able to stop thinking about that special someone and you might even think about them at least a dozen times a day, and it sucks because you know that it won't work out now and that you've really screwed up by breaking up.
Love to me is the end of the world because it hurts so much!!!
THAT'S WHAT I THINK!
Posted 1/22/2007 11:54:36 AM
Wwell what I think about love is... you never know what you have until it's gone.
You might not know it when it's happening but when something happens to upset the relationship then you will know!
You won't be able to stop thinking about that special someone and you might even think about them at least a dozen times a day, and it sucks because you know that it won't work out now and that you've really screwed up by breaking up.
Love to me is the end of the world because it hurts so much!!!
THAT'S WHAT I THINK!
HAVE YOU EVER HAD A DREAM THAT CAME TRUE?
Posted 1/22/2007 10:48:59 AM
Have you ever had a dream and then somewhere down the line later on in life realize that you see that actual events that took place in your dream, you look at it.
You say to yourself, I have seen this before. I remember where I seen this, I remember where I was when I did this I was dreaming.
You say to yourself, huh, how can it be. How in the world did my dream come true.
Well, I had some dreams come true. Let me tell you that alot of them were good, and some were bad.
The ones that were good were really good. And the ones that were bad were really bad. How is it?
I hate when the bad dreams come true, especially when it comes to a person dying, and they end up actually dying.
I hate that.
How come Lord, tell me why does this happen?
Posted 1/22/2007 10:48:59 AM
Have you ever had a dream and then somewhere down the line later on in life realize that you see that actual events that took place in your dream, you look at it.
You say to yourself, I have seen this before. I remember where I seen this, I remember where I was when I did this I was dreaming.
You say to yourself, huh, how can it be. How in the world did my dream come true.
Well, I had some dreams come true. Let me tell you that alot of them were good, and some were bad.
The ones that were good were really good. And the ones that were bad were really bad. How is it?
I hate when the bad dreams come true, especially when it comes to a person dying, and they end up actually dying.
I hate that.
How come Lord, tell me why does this happen?
FOR THE HAPPY
Posted 1/22/2007 10:30:34 AM
I know that there are a lot of depressed, uncontented and unhappy people, that is the very reason why most of us found our way here.
BUT, I also know even when we live such difficult lives, there are times when we are in a happier disposition, times when we are able to think of better times. SO, this is in memory of those better times.
What is the soundtrack of your life?
What is the theme song of your marriage?
What song do you sing to perk up your spirit?
For my boyfriend and I, we consider "READY TO TAKE A CHANCE AGAIN" by Barry Manilow to be our theme song.
It was the first song he sang to me when he was still courting me....and now he still sings this song to me, just to be cute :)
Posted 1/22/2007 10:30:34 AM
I know that there are a lot of depressed, uncontented and unhappy people, that is the very reason why most of us found our way here.
BUT, I also know even when we live such difficult lives, there are times when we are in a happier disposition, times when we are able to think of better times. SO, this is in memory of those better times.
What is the soundtrack of your life?
What is the theme song of your marriage?
What song do you sing to perk up your spirit?
For my boyfriend and I, we consider "READY TO TAKE A CHANCE AGAIN" by Barry Manilow to be our theme song.
It was the first song he sang to me when he was still courting me....and now he still sings this song to me, just to be cute :)
ETERNAL LOVE
Posted 1/22/2007 10:23:33 AM
I have known this couple since forever. She was about 20 years his senior. They go to my church. They are very close and devoted to each other.
I saw them a couple of weeks ago at church. She is now in a wheel chair and he has gotten older. She is all bent over with age. She had a couple of barretts in her hair that started to fall out. He gently took them and replaced them in her hair.
The love I saw come from him was truly amazing. I don't think he saw how old she was, but still saw her as he always had.
Posted 1/22/2007 10:23:33 AM
I have known this couple since forever. She was about 20 years his senior. They go to my church. They are very close and devoted to each other.
I saw them a couple of weeks ago at church. She is now in a wheel chair and he has gotten older. She is all bent over with age. She had a couple of barretts in her hair that started to fall out. He gently took them and replaced them in her hair.
The love I saw come from him was truly amazing. I don't think he saw how old she was, but still saw her as he always had.
MY BEAUTIFUL LIFE: WHY NOT CHANGE?
Posted 1/22/2007 9:58:35 AM
Today, whilst being very pro-active and packing the cupboards etc. I came across a little article in a church magazine, which I had kept because it spoke volumes to me. Today I would like to share this bit of inspiration with you.
This exerpt was taken from Dr John Maxwell's
"Leadership Wired":
1. Most people change just enough to get away from their problems, not enough to solve them. Unfortunately, this is like painting a rusty car. Sooner or later, the paint wears off, and the rust has only gotten worse.
2. Most people want to change their circumstances to improve their lives instead of changing their lives to improve their circumstances.
3. Most people do the same thing the same way and expect different results.
4. Most people are willing to change, not because they see the light, but because they feel the heat.
5. Most people are unwilling to pay the immediate price of change; therefore, they do not change and pay the ultimate price. Change is uncomfortable. It's unsettling. Sometimes, it's downright painful. But in the long run, the alternative is often much, much worse.
6. Most people see change as a hurtful thing that must be done, instead of a helpful thing that should be done.
Did you see yourself in any of these six observations?
If so, decide today to change the way you think about change.
Why is this so important?
BECAUSE, WHEN CHANGE IS SUCCESSFUL, YOU WILL LOOK BACK AND CALL IT GROWTH. {{{hugs}}}
Posted 1/22/2007 9:58:35 AM
Today, whilst being very pro-active and packing the cupboards etc. I came across a little article in a church magazine, which I had kept because it spoke volumes to me. Today I would like to share this bit of inspiration with you.
This exerpt was taken from Dr John Maxwell's
"Leadership Wired":
1. Most people change just enough to get away from their problems, not enough to solve them. Unfortunately, this is like painting a rusty car. Sooner or later, the paint wears off, and the rust has only gotten worse.
2. Most people want to change their circumstances to improve their lives instead of changing their lives to improve their circumstances.
3. Most people do the same thing the same way and expect different results.
4. Most people are willing to change, not because they see the light, but because they feel the heat.
5. Most people are unwilling to pay the immediate price of change; therefore, they do not change and pay the ultimate price. Change is uncomfortable. It's unsettling. Sometimes, it's downright painful. But in the long run, the alternative is often much, much worse.
6. Most people see change as a hurtful thing that must be done, instead of a helpful thing that should be done.
Did you see yourself in any of these six observations?
If so, decide today to change the way you think about change.
Why is this so important?
BECAUSE, WHEN CHANGE IS SUCCESSFUL, YOU WILL LOOK BACK AND CALL IT GROWTH. {{{hugs}}}
EARL - MY ONE TRUE LOVE: SEIZING THE MOMENT
Posted 1/21/2007 12:04:12 PM
I had already decided before I set out on my trip that on this occasion I was going to not only be myself without any masks to hide behind*, the real deal as it were, but that I would, just this once, do what I wanted with only my conscience as a guide.
So for once in my life I won’t allow propriety to dictate what I could and couldn’t do. I didn’t choose self denial over self fulfilment and it was liberating. The things I have discovered about myself. I really had no idea that I could be that person.
And now that I know, the compulsion to feel that again is almost overwhelming. To simply be pulls and beckons to me.
We both still have our lives to live and our commitments and responsibilities to live up to and being the people that we are both have told the other that decisions shouldn’t be based on ‘what if?s’ nor should one decision be contingent on the other’s so in some respects we both still exist in that state of limbo.
But I am glad that he and I will have this time, even if it is all the time we ever have together, because he was everything I had thought and yet so much more…
** For what would have been the point of hiding from the person I had gone to meet?
** It was everything and more, beloved. And you are everything I hoped and dreamed, and more.
** I am so very grateful for the opportunity to be with you. And I want more. I am sorry if I didn't make that clear enough. Gods, how I want more!...
I love you.
Posted 1/21/2007 12:04:12 PM
I had already decided before I set out on my trip that on this occasion I was going to not only be myself without any masks to hide behind*, the real deal as it were, but that I would, just this once, do what I wanted with only my conscience as a guide.
So for once in my life I won’t allow propriety to dictate what I could and couldn’t do. I didn’t choose self denial over self fulfilment and it was liberating. The things I have discovered about myself. I really had no idea that I could be that person.
And now that I know, the compulsion to feel that again is almost overwhelming. To simply be pulls and beckons to me.
We both still have our lives to live and our commitments and responsibilities to live up to and being the people that we are both have told the other that decisions shouldn’t be based on ‘what if?s’ nor should one decision be contingent on the other’s so in some respects we both still exist in that state of limbo.
But I am glad that he and I will have this time, even if it is all the time we ever have together, because he was everything I had thought and yet so much more…
** For what would have been the point of hiding from the person I had gone to meet?
** It was everything and more, beloved. And you are everything I hoped and dreamed, and more.
** I am so very grateful for the opportunity to be with you. And I want more. I am sorry if I didn't make that clear enough. Gods, how I want more!...
I love you.
EARL - MY ONE TRUE LOVE: SEIZING THE MOMENT
Posted 1/21/2007 12:03:02 PM
I had already decided before I set out on my trip that on this occasion I was going to not only be myself without any masks to hide behind*, the real deal as it were, but that I would, just this once, do what I wanted with only my conscience as a guide.
So for once in my life I won’t allow propriety to dictate what I could and couldn’t do. I didn’t choose self denial over self fulfilment and it was liberating. The things I have discovered about myself. I really had no idea that I could be that person.
And now that I know, the compulsion to feel that again is almost overwhelming. To simply be pulls and beckons to me.
We both still have our lives to live and our commitments and responsibilities to live up to and being the people that we are both have told the other that decisions shouldn’t be based on ‘what if?s’ nor should one decision be contingent on the other’s so in some respects we both still exist in that state of limbo.
But I am glad that he and I will have this time, even if it is all the time we ever have together, because he was everything I had thought and yet so much more…
** For what would have been the point of hiding from the person I had gone to meet?
** It was everything and more, beloved. And you are everything I hoped and dreamed, and more.
** I am so very grateful for the opportunity to be with you. And I want more. I am sorry if I didn't make that clear enough. Gods, how I want more!...
I love you.
Posted 1/21/2007 12:03:02 PM
I had already decided before I set out on my trip that on this occasion I was going to not only be myself without any masks to hide behind*, the real deal as it were, but that I would, just this once, do what I wanted with only my conscience as a guide.
So for once in my life I won’t allow propriety to dictate what I could and couldn’t do. I didn’t choose self denial over self fulfilment and it was liberating. The things I have discovered about myself. I really had no idea that I could be that person.
And now that I know, the compulsion to feel that again is almost overwhelming. To simply be pulls and beckons to me.
We both still have our lives to live and our commitments and responsibilities to live up to and being the people that we are both have told the other that decisions shouldn’t be based on ‘what if?s’ nor should one decision be contingent on the other’s so in some respects we both still exist in that state of limbo.
But I am glad that he and I will have this time, even if it is all the time we ever have together, because he was everything I had thought and yet so much more…
** For what would have been the point of hiding from the person I had gone to meet?
** It was everything and more, beloved. And you are everything I hoped and dreamed, and more.
** I am so very grateful for the opportunity to be with you. And I want more. I am sorry if I didn't make that clear enough. Gods, how I want more!...
I love you.
DO YOU HAVE THE DEFINITION FOR COMPASSION?
Posted 1/21/2007 11:55:06 AM
I have been wanting to put this into writing for a long time, not knowing if it would make any sense, or perhaps even be thought of as silly.
I'll do it anyway --
To me, compassion is the one word that has not been given credit for it's meaning and impact on our daily lives. It is far more than "a feeling of pity or mercy" which a dictionary will give you. I know there are others who have grappled with this because I have read of it before. One example is a contemporary mystic(name forgotten)who defined compassion as "not being against anything".
I think of compassion as being as important a feeling as love. Anyone or anything we feel love for, we feel compassion for and express it in as many ways. We love humanity, but show it more through compassion.
When the child we love does something wonderful and brings a tear to your eye, is that just a feeling of love or more so of compassion?
When you hand a gift to someone you love, it's done out of love but isn't the act of giving really compassion?
When thinking of family and friends, love takes the front seat. But so many times love is used when it is really compassion.
"I love this planet and it is being ruined" is a statement of love, but you are expressing a deeply felt compassion.
So, where is the dividing line between love and compassion? Or is there one?
I believe it was Claire Booth-Luce who said " courage is the ladder upon which all other virtues are rungs".
Is love or compassion the ladder upon which all other human feelings are rungs?
I have great difficulty separating the two, but I can't help wondering, is compassion perhaps the more noble?
Isn't it just as easy to say "God is compassion" as "God is love"?
I have no definition of compassion without including love. I have no definition of love without including compassion.
Posted 1/21/2007 11:55:06 AM
I have been wanting to put this into writing for a long time, not knowing if it would make any sense, or perhaps even be thought of as silly.
I'll do it anyway --
To me, compassion is the one word that has not been given credit for it's meaning and impact on our daily lives. It is far more than "a feeling of pity or mercy" which a dictionary will give you. I know there are others who have grappled with this because I have read of it before. One example is a contemporary mystic(name forgotten)who defined compassion as "not being against anything".
I think of compassion as being as important a feeling as love. Anyone or anything we feel love for, we feel compassion for and express it in as many ways. We love humanity, but show it more through compassion.
When the child we love does something wonderful and brings a tear to your eye, is that just a feeling of love or more so of compassion?
When you hand a gift to someone you love, it's done out of love but isn't the act of giving really compassion?
When thinking of family and friends, love takes the front seat. But so many times love is used when it is really compassion.
"I love this planet and it is being ruined" is a statement of love, but you are expressing a deeply felt compassion.
So, where is the dividing line between love and compassion? Or is there one?
I believe it was Claire Booth-Luce who said " courage is the ladder upon which all other virtues are rungs".
Is love or compassion the ladder upon which all other human feelings are rungs?
I have great difficulty separating the two, but I can't help wondering, is compassion perhaps the more noble?
Isn't it just as easy to say "God is compassion" as "God is love"?
I have no definition of compassion without including love. I have no definition of love without including compassion.
OUR FIRST MEETING...
Posted 1/21/2007 11:25:27 AM
I had long admired my soulmate from afar, always hoping for the day when I'd work up the courage to actually meet you and have the chance to talk and get to know you deeper.
There was always worry on my part though. I felt that I was just kidding myself to think that he would see in me any spiritual connection at all - I thought at times I was crazy to think that there could even be the remote possiblity of such a thing.
"He's an attractive guy", I'd tell myself, "There are probably hundreds of girls that have already thrown themselves at him, telling him that they love him, when it is just their lust for his body. Why should he think I'm any different?" Why indeed?
Maybe I wasn't experiencing any kind of connection at all - it was probably just me getting carried away with my emotions and hormones.
So I would go "back to reality" and push those silly thoughts out of my mind that there could be any kind of future for us, that there was anything outside of the physical realm that attracted me to him.
I need him to find me through his heart, it's the only way for me to truly prove that it's a true soulmate connection.
Posted 1/21/2007 11:25:27 AM
I had long admired my soulmate from afar, always hoping for the day when I'd work up the courage to actually meet you and have the chance to talk and get to know you deeper.
There was always worry on my part though. I felt that I was just kidding myself to think that he would see in me any spiritual connection at all - I thought at times I was crazy to think that there could even be the remote possiblity of such a thing.
"He's an attractive guy", I'd tell myself, "There are probably hundreds of girls that have already thrown themselves at him, telling him that they love him, when it is just their lust for his body. Why should he think I'm any different?" Why indeed?
Maybe I wasn't experiencing any kind of connection at all - it was probably just me getting carried away with my emotions and hormones.
So I would go "back to reality" and push those silly thoughts out of my mind that there could be any kind of future for us, that there was anything outside of the physical realm that attracted me to him.
I need him to find me through his heart, it's the only way for me to truly prove that it's a true soulmate connection.
HOW MALLEABLE IS TRUTH?
Posted 1/21/2007 10:59:16 AM
Beliefs are self-fullfilling!
Let me put it another way:
It seems to me that, for a lot of things, truth is as simple as what you say.
Over time, what you say becomes closer to the truth - not because you changed what you said, but because you and those around you believe it more and more.
Is a fact really a fact if nobody believes it to be true?
If that last person becomes convinced it's false, does truth become not so?
We definitely can see examples of truth arising from a self-fulfilling prophecy that may or may not have been reasonably true when it began.
Example:
My 19-month-old nephew (yikes, he's growing so fast!) fell a LOT when he was learning to walk. He still falls at least once a day, mostly because he doesn't pay attention to what's on the ground when he runs.
When he falls, we tell him (and have been since the get-go), "You went thud! You're ok though/you're so tough!"
He used to cry every time he so much as stumbled, but with us reinforcing the "you're ok" idea, and not rushing to comfort him, he has become as tough as we told him he was, even before he was.
Or, take the case of a woman who tells herself, "I'm so ugly!" every day. Over time, that affects her very posture and the way she interacts with others, until her lack of self-confidence and shuffling steps actually do serve to make her unattractive to other people. (The reverse can also be true - confidence is beautiful and a bright, happy face can override any natural beauty or lack thereof!)
Random ramblings of an ice cream plied mind.
What do you think? Examples one way or the other?
Posted 1/21/2007 10:59:16 AM
Beliefs are self-fullfilling!
Let me put it another way:
It seems to me that, for a lot of things, truth is as simple as what you say.
Over time, what you say becomes closer to the truth - not because you changed what you said, but because you and those around you believe it more and more.
Is a fact really a fact if nobody believes it to be true?
If that last person becomes convinced it's false, does truth become not so?
We definitely can see examples of truth arising from a self-fulfilling prophecy that may or may not have been reasonably true when it began.
Example:
My 19-month-old nephew (yikes, he's growing so fast!) fell a LOT when he was learning to walk. He still falls at least once a day, mostly because he doesn't pay attention to what's on the ground when he runs.
When he falls, we tell him (and have been since the get-go), "You went thud! You're ok though/you're so tough!"
He used to cry every time he so much as stumbled, but with us reinforcing the "you're ok" idea, and not rushing to comfort him, he has become as tough as we told him he was, even before he was.
Or, take the case of a woman who tells herself, "I'm so ugly!" every day. Over time, that affects her very posture and the way she interacts with others, until her lack of self-confidence and shuffling steps actually do serve to make her unattractive to other people. (The reverse can also be true - confidence is beautiful and a bright, happy face can override any natural beauty or lack thereof!)
Random ramblings of an ice cream plied mind.
What do you think? Examples one way or the other?
I AM NOT IN LOVE WITH YOU ANYMORE!
Posted 1/21/2007 10:36:19 AM
I AM NOT IN LOVE WITH YOU ANYMORE!!!
Have you ever heard the heartbreaking words? ( I love you, but I dont think I am IN Love with you anymore.)
These were the most painful, life changing
words I have ever heard in my life!
These are the words you usually hear before your mate leaves you, or before you get divorced,the words pierce through your very soul when they are uttered to you, it means your partner doesn't find you attractive anymore, they also mean I don't trust you, I don't admire you, I don't respect you, I dont get excited by you, OR DO THEY?????????????????? Does anyone ever really fall out of love ?
The answer may surprise you, but it is NO.
Then why do so many relationships fail?
Well, when people first date, or even the first so many years of a marriage they have what I like to call (butterflies).
These butterflies tell them that whoa! I really like this person, this is new! it's exciting, I better hold on to this person so they really put in alot of effort and energy into the relationship.
At this stage of the relationship it is very easy to give of yourself because you don't want to lose this wonderful person you have found, they can do no wrong in your eyes.
Usually in this stage your intimacy and communication level is extremely high, sex is very
frequent.......Sound familiar?
The next stage of the relationship everything isn't as exciting....why because the butterflies are gone...YES they are gone!!
Stress of life has set in, kids, bills, no time, work and it becomes harder to give to the relationship because to some it becomes just
another demand.
So instead of focusing on these wonderful qualities you once saw, you start focusing on everything you don't like, you start noticing
all the negative things, the dissapointments build and you become dissattisfied, disillusion sets in, you start thinking if my mate could
only be like this or have a job like so and so, or maybe if they would just stop picking their nose so much......etc.
This is the stage where the person thinks if they just change the things they don't like about you, they would love you more....so they go to work trying to change you and that becomes their job!
Yes, it becomes their fulltime job to try and make you better! They will spend tons of energy trying to change the things they don't like about you and in the process they will find more things that they need to change about you because they are now focusing all the energy they have on all the negatives.
So in the process they become unhappy, they are now getting so frustrated they can't even enjoy life because they are in a constant state of
anxiety because they are living with someone that is so imperfect, they actully come to a point where they think they are superior to you (and the
people you know) at this stage intimacy is becoming less and less, less enthusiasm for communicating and having sex, alot of things you used to do are no more.
Does any of this ring a bell ?????
The last stage is that they start to question
themselves, God if I am so unhappy with everything my mate is doing I must
not love them anymore?
How can I be in love them if I dislike so many things about them?
Why don't I want to have sex with them anymore?
Usually by this time communication about anything intimate becomes just an argument and sex
has prettty much stopped.
Now here comes the turning point, here's where they decide to change somthing else because they realize they aren't going to be able to change you, so they decide to move out or get divorced and now you come in and here those devastating, heart breaking words.
I love you but, I am not in love with you anymore.
Is this really the case, did they stop loving you?
No, what happens is they just replaced the good feelings they had for you with a lot of negative ones because they forgot why they fell in love with you in the first place.
Usually by the time they have realized that they were really still in love with you....it is too late!
People who do this obviously have some problems, if you are the one questioning your love for someone I suggest you get help in dealing with your problems before you destroy your relationship and lose the one you love.
Remember if you fell in love with them once, the feelings are still there, they are just buried beneath some junk.
You can dig up those feelings again it's just going to take some work.
Posted 1/21/2007 10:36:19 AM
I AM NOT IN LOVE WITH YOU ANYMORE!!!
Have you ever heard the heartbreaking words? ( I love you, but I dont think I am IN Love with you anymore.)
These were the most painful, life changing
words I have ever heard in my life!
These are the words you usually hear before your mate leaves you, or before you get divorced,the words pierce through your very soul when they are uttered to you, it means your partner doesn't find you attractive anymore, they also mean I don't trust you, I don't admire you, I don't respect you, I dont get excited by you, OR DO THEY?????????????????? Does anyone ever really fall out of love ?
The answer may surprise you, but it is NO.
Then why do so many relationships fail?
Well, when people first date, or even the first so many years of a marriage they have what I like to call (butterflies).
These butterflies tell them that whoa! I really like this person, this is new! it's exciting, I better hold on to this person so they really put in alot of effort and energy into the relationship.
At this stage of the relationship it is very easy to give of yourself because you don't want to lose this wonderful person you have found, they can do no wrong in your eyes.
Usually in this stage your intimacy and communication level is extremely high, sex is very
frequent.......Sound familiar?
The next stage of the relationship everything isn't as exciting....why because the butterflies are gone...YES they are gone!!
Stress of life has set in, kids, bills, no time, work and it becomes harder to give to the relationship because to some it becomes just
another demand.
So instead of focusing on these wonderful qualities you once saw, you start focusing on everything you don't like, you start noticing
all the negative things, the dissapointments build and you become dissattisfied, disillusion sets in, you start thinking if my mate could
only be like this or have a job like so and so, or maybe if they would just stop picking their nose so much......etc.
This is the stage where the person thinks if they just change the things they don't like about you, they would love you more....so they go to work trying to change you and that becomes their job!
Yes, it becomes their fulltime job to try and make you better! They will spend tons of energy trying to change the things they don't like about you and in the process they will find more things that they need to change about you because they are now focusing all the energy they have on all the negatives.
So in the process they become unhappy, they are now getting so frustrated they can't even enjoy life because they are in a constant state of
anxiety because they are living with someone that is so imperfect, they actully come to a point where they think they are superior to you (and the
people you know) at this stage intimacy is becoming less and less, less enthusiasm for communicating and having sex, alot of things you used to do are no more.
Does any of this ring a bell ?????
The last stage is that they start to question
themselves, God if I am so unhappy with everything my mate is doing I must
not love them anymore?
How can I be in love them if I dislike so many things about them?
Why don't I want to have sex with them anymore?
Usually by this time communication about anything intimate becomes just an argument and sex
has prettty much stopped.
Now here comes the turning point, here's where they decide to change somthing else because they realize they aren't going to be able to change you, so they decide to move out or get divorced and now you come in and here those devastating, heart breaking words.
I love you but, I am not in love with you anymore.
Is this really the case, did they stop loving you?
No, what happens is they just replaced the good feelings they had for you with a lot of negative ones because they forgot why they fell in love with you in the first place.
Usually by the time they have realized that they were really still in love with you....it is too late!
People who do this obviously have some problems, if you are the one questioning your love for someone I suggest you get help in dealing with your problems before you destroy your relationship and lose the one you love.
Remember if you fell in love with them once, the feelings are still there, they are just buried beneath some junk.
You can dig up those feelings again it's just going to take some work.
LOL IS THE BEST MEDICINE
Posted 1/21/2007 10:23:26 AM
We take ourselves far to serious, we all need to let our hair down and laugh more.Several research studies have been done to show that laughter is a good medicine, it's good for the heart, helps our immune systm, dull pain, helps to lower blood pressure and relieve stress.Laughing increases circulation to the heart.
A laugh a day might keep a heart attack away.
Laughter is actually used as a therapy now for cancer patients, there are laughter clubs and laughter yoga because you can even lose so much weight laughing.
So the next time you are sick or depressed, get a funny movie and laugh until you cry.
** Doctor, Doctor **
Two doctors and an HMO manager die and line up together at the Pearly Gates. One doctor steps forward and tells St. Peter, "As a pediatric surgeon, I saved hundreds of children." St. Peter lets him enter.
The next doctor says, "As a psychiatrist, I helped thousands of people live better lives." St. Peter tells him to go ahead.
The last man says, "I was an HMO manager. I got countless families cost-effective health care."
St. Peter replies, "You may enter. But," he adds, "you can only stay for three days. After that, you can go to hell."
** Timing Is Everything **
A guy shows up late for work.
The boss yells, "You should've been here at 8:30!"
The guy replies, "Why? What happened at 8:30?"
** What's in a Name? **
A young man called directory assistance.
"Hello, operator, I would like the telephone number for Mary Jones in Phoenix, Arizona."
"There are multiple listings for Mary Jones in Phoenix," the operator replied.
"Do you have a street name?"
The young man hesitated, and then said, "Well, most people call me Ice Man."
Posted 1/21/2007 10:23:26 AM
We take ourselves far to serious, we all need to let our hair down and laugh more.Several research studies have been done to show that laughter is a good medicine, it's good for the heart, helps our immune systm, dull pain, helps to lower blood pressure and relieve stress.Laughing increases circulation to the heart.
A laugh a day might keep a heart attack away.
Laughter is actually used as a therapy now for cancer patients, there are laughter clubs and laughter yoga because you can even lose so much weight laughing.
So the next time you are sick or depressed, get a funny movie and laugh until you cry.
** Doctor, Doctor **
Two doctors and an HMO manager die and line up together at the Pearly Gates. One doctor steps forward and tells St. Peter, "As a pediatric surgeon, I saved hundreds of children." St. Peter lets him enter.
The next doctor says, "As a psychiatrist, I helped thousands of people live better lives." St. Peter tells him to go ahead.
The last man says, "I was an HMO manager. I got countless families cost-effective health care."
St. Peter replies, "You may enter. But," he adds, "you can only stay for three days. After that, you can go to hell."
** Timing Is Everything **
A guy shows up late for work.
The boss yells, "You should've been here at 8:30!"
The guy replies, "Why? What happened at 8:30?"
** What's in a Name? **
A young man called directory assistance.
"Hello, operator, I would like the telephone number for Mary Jones in Phoenix, Arizona."
"There are multiple listings for Mary Jones in Phoenix," the operator replied.
"Do you have a street name?"
The young man hesitated, and then said, "Well, most people call me Ice Man."
PONDERING
Posted 1/21/2007 10:03:00 AM
Sometimes when my mind is overloaded with problems in my own life, I give it a totally unrelated question to ponder. One that generally keeps me busy is this one:
Is it noblier for a rich man (or woman) to give up all his wealth to serve the people (like St. Francis Assisi or Siddartha) than it is for a poor man (or woman) to work with his good will, common sense and hands to gain wealth (Bill Gates?)?
Posted 1/21/2007 10:03:00 AM
Sometimes when my mind is overloaded with problems in my own life, I give it a totally unrelated question to ponder. One that generally keeps me busy is this one:
Is it noblier for a rich man (or woman) to give up all his wealth to serve the people (like St. Francis Assisi or Siddartha) than it is for a poor man (or woman) to work with his good will, common sense and hands to gain wealth (Bill Gates?)?
I SUPPOSE I SHOULD START HERE....
Posted 1/19/2007 2:15:04 PM
There's nothing like being in love. Everyone is with something, after all. Love with their significant other, love with food, a car, their pets. Some even love themselves more than anything else in the world. Some people love their job, love power, fairy tales, books, music.....some people even love blogging!!!!
Many people believe there is not enough love in the world anymore to make a difference. I don't believe that. If anything, I believe it's there, but we all have to open ourselves to it. For many it's a hard thing because there's the possibility of being burned in the process. But we all survive, hopefully for the wiser.
Me? I love my boyfriend so much, I love, LoVe, LOVE books. I love cooking (although I'm not very good at it), I love to garden (although I have the Black Thumb of Death when it comes to plants..but I keep trying), I love the ocean and I love walking on the beach, having picnics on the beach.... I love music of all kinds, candles, chocolate and a good comedy.
I love being a Romantic. I love feeling things deeply and honestly. I love writing, although again, I'm not that good at it.
I love hiking, I love star gazing as well as camping.
I love going on an adventure.
This blog is an adventure. I can not wait to see what hides within as I free write thoughts, feelings and anything else that pops into the mind.
I'm just a simple soul in a complex universe; I'm simply InLove.
Posted 1/19/2007 2:15:04 PM
There's nothing like being in love. Everyone is with something, after all. Love with their significant other, love with food, a car, their pets. Some even love themselves more than anything else in the world. Some people love their job, love power, fairy tales, books, music.....some people even love blogging!!!!
Many people believe there is not enough love in the world anymore to make a difference. I don't believe that. If anything, I believe it's there, but we all have to open ourselves to it. For many it's a hard thing because there's the possibility of being burned in the process. But we all survive, hopefully for the wiser.
Me? I love my boyfriend so much, I love, LoVe, LOVE books. I love cooking (although I'm not very good at it), I love to garden (although I have the Black Thumb of Death when it comes to plants..but I keep trying), I love the ocean and I love walking on the beach, having picnics on the beach.... I love music of all kinds, candles, chocolate and a good comedy.
I love being a Romantic. I love feeling things deeply and honestly. I love writing, although again, I'm not that good at it.
I love hiking, I love star gazing as well as camping.
I love going on an adventure.
This blog is an adventure. I can not wait to see what hides within as I free write thoughts, feelings and anything else that pops into the mind.
I'm just a simple soul in a complex universe; I'm simply InLove.
15 PCS OF ADVICE TO PASS ONTO YOUR SISTER, NIECES, DAUGHTER, GIRLFRIENDS ETC.
Posted 1/19/2007 1:48:32 PM
**I am not a manhater, but .... no man has proven to me that this isn't true in all men so here goes***
1. Don't imagine you can change a man - unless he's in diapers.
2. What do you do if your boyfriend walks out? You shut the door.
3. If they put a man on the moon - they should be able to put them all up there.
4. Never let your man's mind wander - it's too little to be out alone.
5. Go for the younger man. You might as well, they never mature anyway.
6. Men are all the same - they just have different faces, so that you can tell them apart.
7. Definition of a bachelor: a man who has missed the opportunity to make some woman miserable.
8. Women don't make fools of men - most of them are the do-it-yourself types.
9. Best way to get a man to do something is to suggest he is too old for it.
10. Love is blind, but marriage is a real eye-opener.
11. If you want a committed man, look in a mental hospital.
12. The children of Israel wandered around the desert for 40 years. Even in Biblical times, men wouldn't ask for directions.
13. If he asks what sort of books you're interested in, tell him checkbooks.
14. Remember a sense of humor does not mean that you tell him jokes, it means that you laugh at his.
15. Sadly, all men are created equal.
Posted 1/19/2007 1:48:32 PM
**I am not a manhater, but .... no man has proven to me that this isn't true in all men so here goes***
1. Don't imagine you can change a man - unless he's in diapers.
2. What do you do if your boyfriend walks out? You shut the door.
3. If they put a man on the moon - they should be able to put them all up there.
4. Never let your man's mind wander - it's too little to be out alone.
5. Go for the younger man. You might as well, they never mature anyway.
6. Men are all the same - they just have different faces, so that you can tell them apart.
7. Definition of a bachelor: a man who has missed the opportunity to make some woman miserable.
8. Women don't make fools of men - most of them are the do-it-yourself types.
9. Best way to get a man to do something is to suggest he is too old for it.
10. Love is blind, but marriage is a real eye-opener.
11. If you want a committed man, look in a mental hospital.
12. The children of Israel wandered around the desert for 40 years. Even in Biblical times, men wouldn't ask for directions.
13. If he asks what sort of books you're interested in, tell him checkbooks.
14. Remember a sense of humor does not mean that you tell him jokes, it means that you laugh at his.
15. Sadly, all men are created equal.
AS YOU GO ALONG
Posted 1/19/2007 1:27:46 PM
As you go along you find out who you are and who you are not. Its amazing!
Children seem to be so sure, simply because they've been told. Maybe its nice return to that state once again so we will not make the mistakes we regret but life is so great that we have to experience each and every minute of it and with the knowledge and wisdom we have acquired, we have pass it on to the next generation.
Posted 1/19/2007 1:27:46 PM
As you go along you find out who you are and who you are not. Its amazing!
Children seem to be so sure, simply because they've been told. Maybe its nice return to that state once again so we will not make the mistakes we regret but life is so great that we have to experience each and every minute of it and with the knowledge and wisdom we have acquired, we have pass it on to the next generation.
FORGOTTEN HEART
Posted 1/19/2007 1:12:04 PM
In a world far from perfect
It's not always easy to connect
Where everything can be so complicated
I know that you are the best.
In a world far from perfect, no one knows what to expect
So tell me, what will you do?
You better keep your distance, you know what's good for you
I've got no resistance and that's why I can't
Keep my eyes off of you.
I never saw this coming, you took me by surprise
You keep the fire burning, I can see it in your eyes.
I feel so lonely and I know I am not the only one...
Posted 1/19/2007 1:12:04 PM
In a world far from perfect
It's not always easy to connect
Where everything can be so complicated
I know that you are the best.
In a world far from perfect, no one knows what to expect
So tell me, what will you do?
You better keep your distance, you know what's good for you
I've got no resistance and that's why I can't
Keep my eyes off of you.
I never saw this coming, you took me by surprise
You keep the fire burning, I can see it in your eyes.
I feel so lonely and I know I am not the only one...
FeedBack
Arsham
1/24/2007 3:08:06 PM
thanx
amyamy
1/7/2007 2:12:22 PM
HAPPY SUNDAY!!
Noel
12/26/2006 6:17:25 PM
Noel
12/23/2006 6:54:44 PM
May this year's christmas eve be a truly holy night! Let us anticipate a joyous celebration for the birth of Our Lord, Jesus on Christmas Day.
TRUE_HUMAN
12/22/2006 1:36:09 AM
hi...ur blogs are touching....
keep doing wat are doing..
1/24/2007 3:08:06 PM
thanx
amyamy
1/7/2007 2:12:22 PM
HAPPY SUNDAY!!
Noel
12/26/2006 6:17:25 PM
Noel
12/23/2006 6:54:44 PM
May this year's christmas eve be a truly holy night! Let us anticipate a joyous celebration for the birth of Our Lord, Jesus on Christmas Day.
TRUE_HUMAN
12/22/2006 1:36:09 AM
hi...ur blogs are touching....
keep doing wat are doing..
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