DiamondNRUff

True Friends

posted on 10/11/2008 11:28:14 AM in Friends: (0) Comments

I've had friends all my life come and go. I feel to have good friends you must be a good friend otherwise they will never really be a friend worth hanging onto. I have been through a lot in the past year. A break up with a fiance, the loss of a baby, the death of close realatives, and a career change. These events have shown me who my true friends are the ones who will stick by my side no matter what. I'm at that age where you can eaisly have friends stuck in the "college mode" where life hasn't hit them and they still live in their happy little bubble. This resulted in some of my friends sleeping with my ex which was a low blow and obviously they weren't really my friends. Or some of them told me I should just get over those girls (that where suppose to be my friends) sleeping with my ex. This was a slap in the face if it was my friend I'd back her up no matter how I felt shes my friend I'm suppose to be there for her. Thats a diffcult thing to go through and support or a little yea that was a bitch move comment would have gone a long ways. I wasn't asking them to hate them just agree with me for a split second so I didn't feel alone. My true friends still hang out with some of those girls (which is fine with me) but they would never choose them over me because they care about me. When I lost my kid my close friends just sat by me while a cried they took me shopping and out to eat to get my mind off it and they listen to me no matter how much I repeated myself because they knew it was important to me even if they were sick of it. Every time they need to talk about anything I listen to them no matter what even if I can't comment back or I've heard it a million time because a true friend understands that just venting to someone can go a long way. My other friends that didn't really care told me to shut up other people have it worse or that Hey look at the bright side you no longer have that finacial burden a head of you. These people seemed to not care and understand that loosing my kid crushed me. When my famliy member died my actual friends came with me even though they didn't really know them because they were my support. My other friends just viewed it as me trying to create more drama like the other two things that happened to me were my fault and I could control that. When I was stuck at a crappy job and I felt there was no way out my real friends introduced me to a lot of people who had great job opportunities for me and they helped me with my resume sending it to several people to help make it look more professional. Now I have the best job in the world and there hasn't been a day that goes by that I just want to go to work I don't feel like I have to work. My true friends I'd bend over backwards for. What does that mean it means that even though sometimes they get on my nerves I'll be there when they fall, I'll hate the guy that breaks their heart, I'll hand them tissues and give them a shoulder to cry on until they are ready to move on. I'll take them out when they need to so they can get their mind off of things. I'll point out the bright side of things and I'll acknowldge but try to avoid the pain that they are already shoving in their own faces by just thinking about it. I'll make them laugh until they cry. I'll encourage them to be the best and show them who they could be. I'll support them in anything they want even if that means they have to move across the country. If we happen to not talk for months I'll talk to them on the phone and act like we just saw each other the day before and realize that we have lives to live and that we can't always hang out. Having friends is important but having friends that will stick with you no matter what even if we get into a huge fight is a gift that is truly special and should be charished. This is dedicated to my three "sisters" that have been my true friends for over 10 years and that I'd do anything for because I know that they would do anything for me.